tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post1100428394962889817..comments2023-12-14T00:26:40.462-07:00Comments on Submissive Sanctuary: Rules Abound, or, Little Black Book RedundanciesStormhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-69992807054051150942014-02-20T08:33:35.159-07:002014-02-20T08:33:35.159-07:00Misty,
Iknowright?! Misty,<br />Iknowright?! Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-65437488930619293062014-02-20T08:32:57.827-07:002014-02-20T08:32:57.827-07:00Roz,
I think there's a nice line somewhere (I&...Roz,<br />I think there's a nice line somewhere (I'm sure of it, just haven't been able to catch it yet) where the validation isn't necessary, but there...?<br /><br />I think it took me a year or two to figure out that it was really only worth doing/following if it was important to him. If it's not, well that kinda just makes it a moot point, doesn't it?<br /><br />Maintaining the book when I have slipped up and gotten behind makes me cringe!Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-26528090933271462592014-02-20T08:29:56.642-07:002014-02-20T08:29:56.642-07:00sunnygirl,
LOL!! Yes, shame on you!
I'm think...sunnygirl,<br />LOL!! Yes, shame on you!<br /><br />I'm thinking that the FU is a bit braver than I want to be, but I was considering writing a sample page of edited rules and presenting it as I usually do. Just cuz...Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-3546054139752214492014-02-20T08:28:36.080-07:002014-02-20T08:28:36.080-07:00scarlet,
seems there's always enough rope to h...scarlet,<br />seems there's always enough rope to hang myself with! Not an inch more, and not an inch less. You'd think that I'd have this figured out by now, lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-59573559313371306162014-02-20T08:27:46.011-07:002014-02-20T08:27:46.011-07:00ksst,
it's not an easy mantra to adopt! Though...ksst,<br />it's not an easy mantra to adopt! Though, I rather think that it might be useful in many different areas of life...<br /><br />I think that it's a difficult feeling sometimes, when we have done as we were supposed to, but not how/when we should have--it kinda makes the whole experience less satisfying....Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-89347655928577657492014-02-19T09:35:37.654-07:002014-02-19T09:35:37.654-07:00Meanings behind actions... they're everywhere....Meanings behind actions... they're everywhere. Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931554793023459482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-9564456848708634112014-02-19T03:14:34.613-07:002014-02-19T03:14:34.613-07:00Act without expectation, I love that!
I totally ...Act without expectation, I love that! <br /><br />I totally get this Lil, it's hard to place importance on things he doesn't place importance on ... or worse, things we *think* he doesn't place importance on. This is something I struggle with. I get that he shouldn't need to constantly validate the importance of something, but I need that validation. <br /><br />As you have highlighted too, our circumstances and needs change and things that may have been important/relevant may no longer be so. I therefore think it is important to sit down and review things from time to time. Also, we have found if something isn't overly important to him, he doesn't hold me accountable for it.<br /><br />I also have a book to record 'offences' and discipline and I don't always maintain it ... oops.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-40695615940299191942014-02-18T10:03:39.953-07:002014-02-18T10:03:39.953-07:00Shame on me, but maybe you could add a little note...Shame on me, but maybe you could add a little note in the books that says something like WTF, or FU or WANT A DATE. Something just to see his reaction. Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-6140470105925859042014-02-18T09:52:50.210-07:002014-02-18T09:52:50.210-07:00i totally get where you are coming from and would ...i totally get where you are coming from and would probably have the same reaction to the lack of validation. (Don't you just hate when they keep giving you the rope to hang yourself with?)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-7400714659784310632014-02-18T09:38:14.102-07:002014-02-18T09:38:14.102-07:00This really is good. Act without expectation. ...This really is good. Act without expectation. It is about time I adopted another mantra. <br /><br />It is only natural that we only place importance on the things that they feel are important. It is how they have made us, isn't it? On the other hand, I make the bed every day even though he has not mentioned that as being an important rule since... oh... forever... the last time I forgot to do it. One time I only got around to do it right before he went upstairs for the first time since morning. I told him that I was very late with it, and his response was "Well, you did it before I got up there so you are off the hook". Technically, yes, I followed the rule. But did I feel good about how? Or his response? Would you? ancilla_kssthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10968994155747861194noreply@blogger.com