tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post2009660279148029087..comments2023-12-14T00:26:40.462-07:00Comments on Submissive Sanctuary: Delicious DarknessStormhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-1587975072279648132012-04-24T08:17:44.272-06:002012-04-24T08:17:44.272-06:00Lea, it can be a very interesting and rewarding ex...Lea, it can be a very interesting and rewarding experience. I hope that you find your explorations rewarding.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-19694140885785095162012-04-22T17:12:32.016-06:002012-04-22T17:12:32.016-06:00I've been thinking about humiliation lately. N...I've been thinking about humiliation lately. Not the degradation kind, but more of an embarrassing soul bearing type. It's something I'm finding that I want to explore.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213567388808206135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-9581329350347283822012-04-17T16:58:14.847-06:002012-04-17T16:58:14.847-06:00Viemoira, omgoodness yes! It was incredible and as...Viemoira, omgoodness yes! It was incredible and as you said, much needed.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-38834047384264034902012-04-17T16:46:27.366-06:002012-04-17T16:46:27.366-06:00Sounds like you both had some much needed quality ...Sounds like you both had some much needed quality time. :)viemoirahttp://cavernofthebeast.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-41497440053396999492012-04-09T10:39:32.808-06:002012-04-09T10:39:32.808-06:00faerie, Yea, I'm giving myself vertigo lol.
En...faerie, Yea, I'm giving myself vertigo lol.<br />Enjoy the merry go round--I think it's much better than the roller coaster. Less far to fall and all.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-50524809009133605812012-04-09T10:37:51.470-06:002012-04-09T10:37:51.470-06:00Serafina, I'm c/p the same link I gave in my r...Serafina, I'm c/p the same link I gave in my response to Jake.<br />http://slave-drivers.blogspot.com/2012/03/shamegasm.html<br />I think she did a really wonderful job describing how humiliation can be a positive thing for some of us.<br /><br />I think that bullying is an attempt to make oneself seem more powerful at the expense of another person; whereas, humiliation in the context of a D/s relationship is about humility, breaking down walls, bringing two people closer, not by making one "better" but by seeing each other for what we really are when we strip away the trappings of decency and daily life.<br /><br />I guess that, much like anything else, the impacts and benefits (or damages), are an individual experience.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-55795604846594050782012-04-09T10:32:34.944-06:002012-04-09T10:32:34.944-06:00Jake, I'm working on a follow-up post...Maybe ...Jake, I'm working on a follow-up post...Maybe it will even make it to the blog lol.<br />I think that when one is the object of humiliation, it is slightly easier in the beginning of that type of exploration than when one is inflicting it--you just accept and be as the receiver. As the giver, I think that concerns about the consequences, meanings, etc. can be a lot.<br /><br />I think that most of us, to some extent struggle with the concept. My all-time favorite post describing the positive impacts humiliation can have is here:<br />http://slave-drivers.blogspot.com/2012/03/shamegasm.html<br />I think she did a brilliant job with that post.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-57084918776699672012012-04-09T10:28:30.590-06:002012-04-09T10:28:30.590-06:00Jack and Jill, I felt pretty enlightened when I wr...Jack and Jill, I felt pretty enlightened when I wrote the post lol, but those moments rarely seem to make sense to others.<br />As are most things of power, humiliation can be dangerous. But also quite delicious--if it is your cup of tea anyways.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-35026126456204291632012-04-09T10:26:53.575-06:002012-04-09T10:26:53.575-06:00Wnedy, I think that walls are almost always a work...Wnedy, I think that walls are almost always a work in progress--when you spend so much time building something, it's hard to tear down in a day.<br /><br />Glad the post came out somewhat coherent and made sense!Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-35853829785363851452012-04-09T10:25:05.437-06:002012-04-09T10:25:05.437-06:00tori, I think that over analyzing is what we do be...tori, I think that over analyzing is what we do best lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-82273878918879327162012-04-08T17:01:40.389-06:002012-04-08T17:01:40.389-06:00Wow lil, I just read your last post and then this ...Wow lil, I just read your last post and then this one. What a roller coaster, I am just a little dizzy, lol. <br /><br />I also think it may have helped me with a bit of the roller coaster I seem to have hopped on the last few days. Hmm...lots to think about. I think I'll go ride the merry go round now, it doesn't make me so dizzy :)faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-69150684522014208672012-04-08T09:09:50.679-06:002012-04-08T09:09:50.679-06:00Like Jake, and Jack and Jill I also do not respond...Like Jake, and Jack and Jill I also do not respond well to humiliation. In fact I respond by becoming majorly depressed and I too confess I do not understand how anyone enjoys getting. It feels like what bullies do to their victims, and I am sure it gives them satisfaction. . I am trying to embrace it by understanding it from others who do enjoy. Thanks for sharing your life and thoughts.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05836027835171096558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-81194472135181717522012-04-08T06:11:55.676-06:002012-04-08T06:11:55.676-06:00Thanks for sharing, lil. I struggle a bit with th...Thanks for sharing, lil. I struggle a bit with the humiliation concept, and I hadn't thought of it in the way you describe. Maybe this will help me understand better...Jakehttp://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/category/bondageinfoforwomen/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-17884591188241668852012-04-08T02:36:14.596-06:002012-04-08T02:36:14.596-06:00We've never been into the humiliation aspect o...We've never been into the humiliation aspect of D/s. To tell the truth, we're not big practitioners of D/s. But we've never understood humiliation as sex play, or the power it holds. Thank you for enlightening us.Jack and Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621526029674020006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-10745483250395471502012-04-08T01:41:52.066-06:002012-04-08T01:41:52.066-06:00Ah, walls. I also tend to put them up after "...Ah, walls. I also tend to put them up after "letting go". It's something we're working on together here.<br /><br />I love what you had to say about humiliation. It's also something that is very important to me - something I need, for whatever reason - and I could never put into words exactly how I felt after a session that included it. Now you've done it for me (thank you so much!): the fear that he can't possibly love me afterwards. But my Master does say to me that is precisely what he loves about me - that he can do things to me that very few other women would allow, and that I trust him.<br /><br />Beautiful post and one to which I can relate, as always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-82255536546296905982012-04-08T01:10:25.401-06:002012-04-08T01:10:25.401-06:00Humiliation is a funny old thing i think, i love i...Humiliation is a funny old thing i think, i love it but then i question is it truely humiliating if i love it? lol yeah there i go over analysing again.<br /><br />I see humiliation as a tool to achieve escapism, to be able to let go of vanilla pressures, expectations and to just be.<br /><br />tori xxtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.com