tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post2958192102502462111..comments2023-12-14T00:26:40.462-07:00Comments on Submissive Sanctuary: Try Try, and Fall AgainStormhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-87961724929794901072013-08-28T13:15:49.354-06:002013-08-28T13:15:49.354-06:00Anon,
they do keep us open and honest. And that is...Anon,<br />they do keep us open and honest. And that is a very good thing.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-26125433081550496242013-08-28T07:54:23.559-06:002013-08-28T07:54:23.559-06:00Yes, sounds all to familiar. Sometimes it just tak...Yes, sounds all to familiar. Sometimes it just takes something to bring out what is important. Then we can address the real source of the issue. I guess I have grown thankful for those moments. They leep us open and honest.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-68726162577859835792013-08-23T09:19:51.394-06:002013-08-23T09:19:51.394-06:00Roz,
so true.
And yes, appreciation is important f...Roz,<br />so true.<br />And yes, appreciation is important for everyone to one extent or another.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-36888216058608633202013-08-23T09:19:13.297-06:002013-08-23T09:19:13.297-06:00Baby C,
welcome to my crazy corner. Glad you got a...Baby C,<br />welcome to my crazy corner. Glad you got a laugh! Usually I save funnies for an occasion where they fit perfectly, but I couldn't hoard this one.<br /><br />I think that there is somehow an ideal balance between taking everything too personally and not personally enough...I'm still looking for it.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-14977422566763114182013-08-23T09:17:49.925-06:002013-08-23T09:17:49.925-06:00Brigit,
omg, we fought over kids before we had the...Brigit,<br />omg, we fought over kids before we had them too! Ridiculous in retrospect...<br /><br />This is my little dumping ground. You never know what you'll get lol.<br /><br />And yes, it truly is powerful.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-79363004787481143662013-08-23T09:15:39.747-06:002013-08-23T09:15:39.747-06:00sunnygirl,
awesome isn't it? I totally started...sunnygirl,<br />awesome isn't it? I totally started laughing when I saw it.<br /><br />Lol, You're awesome! Thank you.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-36057054852975615212013-08-23T09:14:43.817-06:002013-08-23T09:14:43.817-06:00gg,
Oh I find it infinitely more logical to make s...gg,<br />Oh I find it infinitely more logical to make simplicity complicated than to just go with it. Apparently.<br /><br />I get what you mean about the deeper balance. Makes perfect sense.<br /><br />Thank you!Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-20363568152594977752013-08-23T06:41:20.429-06:002013-08-23T06:41:20.429-06:00Hi Lil, I'm sorry you argued. Isn't it a...Hi Lil, I'm sorry you argued. Isn't it amazing the things that can start an argument? I agree. Often the 'minor' thing that started the argument is the catalyst for the things that a really bothering us to come out.<br /><br />It sounds as though you gained an understanding of each other's perspective through this though, which is a good thing. I think we all need to feel appreciated.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-89995327318559010332013-08-23T04:32:16.420-06:002013-08-23T04:32:16.420-06:00Loved that pic. It made me laugh and I needed it....Loved that pic. It made me laugh and I needed it.<br /><br />I know for me, I have a tendency to take everything personally. If Daddy isn't pleased it is something I did or didn't do because I am supposed to be the one to keep him happy.Baby Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08968938530664597466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-19734344096132635442013-08-22T21:55:50.293-06:002013-08-22T21:55:50.293-06:00Ha! I laughed out loud and read your post to Dadd...Ha! I laughed out loud and read your post to Daddy. Been there, done that - only for us it's been "arsenals in the basement, moving to France, and homeschooling kids we didn't even have yet"...<br /><br />Bleuame called it...marriage is complex. When you start with that and then begin to highlight or pull out the qualities that lead to a D/s relationship, the complexity can turn epic.<br /><br />I so appreciate your honesty. Being a fairly "new" (I've been married 8 years and we just finally named our "roles") "Daddy's girl", I have a big need to feel appreciated. I love it when he calls me "good girl"...my insides melt. But if he said it all the time, it would lose its power. Once in awhile - when he can feel I really need it, though - that's some powerful shit right there.<br /><br />Loved this post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15831717334292672743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-69425915510044697412013-08-22T21:11:16.648-06:002013-08-22T21:11:16.648-06:00OMG, I love that pic.
Late to the game. I agree ...OMG, I love that pic.<br /><br />Late to the game. I agree with you about the rice, it's about the bigger issues. On any given day, we're on different pages, but it's the end that counts. We all want to know we're appreciated and loved, him too. So don't feed him rice tonight and Alpha tell her how much she means to you.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-8089135452389619122013-08-22T20:17:47.141-06:002013-08-22T20:17:47.141-06:00It's a multi layered thing - at least for me -...It's a multi layered thing - at least for me - of course i can make simplicity complicated.... I do want to please him, i don't want it to be for a reward, or quid pro quo, i want to please him cuz that pleases me (ok - so there's some quid). But i'm just not always perfectly altruistic, or submissive or any of it. Which means that sometimes those altogether human relationship things have to balance out. I'm not saying this very well - it's not a ledger - but there's a deeper balance that throws silly stuff off (like rice) when it's off. Good luck.greengirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-12452249966216977012013-08-22T16:28:52.657-06:002013-08-22T16:28:52.657-06:00tori,
right!! A trivial statement to him could be ...tori,<br />right!! A trivial statement to him could be the end of the world for me.<br />I think too, that I can be kinda unaware of when what I say has the same kind of impact. If that makes any sense...<br /><br />And I did take the drama queen comment in the manner it was intended! After all, there was a drum roll and everything leading up to the great rice incident lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-75991827666176096712013-08-22T16:25:53.178-06:002013-08-22T16:25:53.178-06:00Bleuame,
We don't generally have any issues......Bleuame,<br />We don't generally have any issues...<br /><br />I think that really, if I could manage to get my brain-to-mouth filter functioning (it's been a lifelong affliction), that would probably be a great step in the right direction as far as reoccurring themes go.<br /><br />Thank you for your questions--I'll be musing on them.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-71970104235174939512013-08-22T15:57:40.866-06:002013-08-22T15:57:40.866-06:00ok, i didnt mean that drama queen comment in any o...ok, i didnt mean that drama queen comment in any offensive way....it was meant light heartedly<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-5139460424763536572013-08-22T15:55:56.275-06:002013-08-22T15:55:56.275-06:00You know how we have come to the conclusion that w...You know how we have come to the conclusion that we sort of overthink too much...i do wander sometimes if they dont think about what they say, how it effects us, it could be trivial to them but to us its ...its well like taking a kick to the stomach because we do strive to please them....<br /><br />ok i confess i chuckled at the rice comment..gosh and they accuse us of being drama quieens sometimes lol<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-77372517291277853792013-08-22T15:09:13.067-06:002013-08-22T15:09:13.067-06:00Lil: I hear you.
You see, what you just gave...Lil: I hear you. <br /> You see, what you just gave us a snap shot of is marriage. And those little stupid flare-ups about rice (or shelves in my case) often come out of nowhere. That kind of sh*t happens in marriages.<br /> Add in D/s, and living 24/7 and oh goddess, how we just complicated married life. It isn't easy to begin with.<br /><br />If these are themes that come up often, have you committed to trying to solve the issues? <br /><br />Can you clearly identify something, a small little gesture that Alpha might do to make you feel that your efforts are being appreciated?<br /> I don't always need the pat on the back but I do need to know that my efforts are being noticed. <br /><br />Can Alpha give you a clear communication on what kind of feedback he needs or wants from you that would make him feel that you do care about what he does or wants to do? <br /><br />Could it just be that you need action and he needs more words that are positive and affirming? Could it be that he sees everything he does--all the actions he does--as showing his appreciation and you are not reading it the same way? <br /><br />Glad you two got to the joking stage ;o) <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Bleue D'âmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945301989408243513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-11426943137401174582013-08-22T14:52:36.164-06:002013-08-22T14:52:36.164-06:00P,
we didn't really root to the bottom, (he...P,<br />we didn't really root to the bottom, (he's in a final push on a project at work) but there has been a fair amount of joking about rice today...All in all, I would say we're moving up lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-87802787670570746992013-08-22T14:51:23.127-06:002013-08-22T14:51:23.127-06:00Jz,
I spend a whole post beating around the bush, ...Jz,<br />I spend a whole post beating around the bush, and you sum it up succinctly in one paragraph!Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-53616465824779238912013-08-22T14:50:44.693-06:002013-08-22T14:50:44.693-06:00Yep! That sounds about right! Most of our argume...Yep! That sounds about right! Most of our arguments start out with the silliest of things and snowball from there. Hopefully you were able to get to the root of the problem and solve that.<br /><br />hugs<br />pAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-24833035516643361992013-08-22T14:50:18.593-06:002013-08-22T14:50:18.593-06:00Daisy,
I think that we all have our days when we b...Daisy,<br />I think that we all have our days when we behave in a less than desirable fashion, or get sucked into ridiculous arguments.<br /><br />But today is a new day! Better luck tomorrow?Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-34619203765846460892013-08-22T14:49:23.396-06:002013-08-22T14:49:23.396-06:00Misty,
I know right? It's pretty ridiculous in...Misty,<br />I know right? It's pretty ridiculous in the light of a new day. Lol.<br /><br />Like I said to Subrina, I think that it's not ideal to be reward oriented like that--it is ultimately done to please him, not me, so I don't feel like I should need that response. Sometimes though...Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-23163569809088006552013-08-22T14:47:11.677-06:002013-08-22T14:47:11.677-06:00Subrina,
Rice and ice cream--nothing like minor fo...Subrina,<br />Rice and ice cream--nothing like minor food items to start a war lol.<br /><br />I feel pretty strongly that submission shouldn't be about getting kudos from him--I submit because I choose to, I know what he does and doesn't like, and submitting shouldn't be done with expectations about his response; however, that's easier said than done.<br /><br />It's an awesome pic isn't it. I would probably fall off the boat in my attempts to escape lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-73680962952710439092013-08-22T14:25:54.677-06:002013-08-22T14:25:54.677-06:00Yeah, I have to admit, I don't really find &qu...Yeah, I have to admit, I don't really find "I'm not complaining" to be the best "attagirl" there is...<br />But I know what you mean - you don't wanna go turning into some whiny, attention-seeking bitch. (Well, not the whiny and attention-seeking parts, anyhow...)<br />Jzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301793291285112859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-85470582824345903402013-08-22T14:23:10.053-06:002013-08-22T14:23:10.053-06:00OMG I could have written this lol.. Tyler says I&#...OMG I could have written this lol.. Tyler says I'm mean. I also feel unappreciated but don't want to. I think it comes down to we give over so much to them and it seems they don't realize it. We too had an argument 2 nights ago and its still spinning with me. I've thought of blogging about it but its just not there.<br /><br />Anyway HugsDaisy Christianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02068847822523639638noreply@blogger.com