tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post5001542415399453289..comments2023-12-14T00:26:40.462-07:00Comments on Submissive Sanctuary: Learning and RelearningStormhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-5365117532976936102012-11-15T07:50:59.982-07:002012-11-15T07:50:59.982-07:00Thank you ara--glad you enjoyed the post.Thank you ara--glad you enjoyed the post.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-83906875199169618092012-11-14T15:37:43.752-07:002012-11-14T15:37:43.752-07:00thank you, little steps they say, just little step...thank you, little steps they say, just little steps to change to keep the ecosystem going. I liked this post a lot...<br />love<br />araAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-92160313693433426862012-11-14T14:45:47.101-07:002012-11-14T14:45:47.101-07:00From one submissive to another,
I am told that pat...From one submissive to another,<br />I am told that patience is a virtue...It's one that I am still in the process of attempting to a acquire lol.<br /><br />I think that letting go of control can be a very difficult thing. Ultimately quite rewarding, but not always easy by any means.<br /><br />Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-36080398785397306012012-11-14T14:40:16.732-07:002012-11-14T14:40:16.732-07:00Kitty,
It's interesting the things that can tu...Kitty,<br />It's interesting the things that can turn into unanticipated stumbling blocks. <br />It's not always the things you think...Then sometimes the things that sound tremendous, are just not that big of a deal.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-65763678252674520442012-11-14T08:46:19.320-07:002012-11-14T08:46:19.320-07:00Hi lil,
Well this post resonated with me a lot. In...Hi lil,<br />Well this post resonated with me a lot. In my case it seems those little changes have slowly become easier to accept but still equally hard to deal with. I think its because we didnt even start off on an equal power footing, my role as alpha was established pretty much right away. My Dom is an amazing person but he kind of needed a little push to get his life together when I first met him. Ok maybe a great big kick is the ass! lol So trying to let him take over has been a lot of frustration mostly because I'm afraid things wont get done if I leave it to him. Im not sure if anyone else feels this way. Basically I've had to learn patience and a lot of it because he will get it done, just slowly which is something I'm not a fan of. Anyways what I'm trying to get at is that in my experience changing the power dynamic has tought (and still really teaching) me how to be patient. When things have been done one way for so long its really hard to let go of that control. Its not that I dont have any responsibilities anymore but part of our D/s relationship is that we wants to handle stuff in our life without me taking over. Well forgive me for the long post (and the spelling wyi I suck at it) Thanks for more insight on this subject.From One Submissive to Anothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-2662885439257098172012-11-14T08:45:16.613-07:002012-11-14T08:45:16.613-07:00So this is where my mind went: http://simplyhis--d...So this is where my mind went: http://simplyhis--darkkitten.blogspot.com/2012/11/changes.html<br /><br />It's apt for where I am...thanks for the help finding the words for it all. :)cuddlykittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13881140044927155623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-21696034316986826892012-11-14T01:57:28.607-07:002012-11-14T01:57:28.607-07:00I think this is true. And I have contemplated wha...I think this is true. And I have contemplated what happens if this aspect of your relationship is not resolvable... is it any less important than all the other aspects? I think that is something that all couples face regardless of the change that they are dealing with. But this one is a bit harder because it is not a "known" stumbling block.<br /><br />I think it can be one though.Kitty the Submissive Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185859722963938064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-69108489631920295952012-11-13T20:20:54.243-07:002012-11-13T20:20:54.243-07:00SirQsmlb,
Exactly! It's one of those things wh...SirQsmlb,<br />Exactly! It's one of those things where cumulative small adaptations and changes over time add up to bigger things.<br /><br />And that whole seamlessly bit sounds so damn good...But it's not always possible.<br /><br />One can never have too much caffeine...So as long as there's lots, it's just right!Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-838069819386275732012-11-13T20:18:07.164-07:002012-11-13T20:18:07.164-07:00Thank you mamacrow.Thank you mamacrow.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-26824122629283219722012-11-13T20:17:50.225-07:002012-11-13T20:17:50.225-07:00Cuddlykitten,
I think that minor changes make the ...Cuddlykitten,<br />I think that minor changes make the big ones easier. Sometimes lots of minor ones can accumulate to become one big change...I think the cumulative ones are a bit easier to deal with.<br /><br />Let me know when you write your post. I'd love to read it.<br /><br />Glad it made sense! The 3 cups of coffee was probably helpful lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-6431493532117195992012-11-13T14:47:00.730-07:002012-11-13T14:47:00.730-07:00You know, I think that was perfect. Just as we hav...You know, I think that was perfect. Just as we have made the theoretical decision to up and change our relationship...doesn't mean that all of those dynamics change immediately and seamlessly also. Our interpersonal relationship as well as our relationship with others will all change because of the decision we made. And as we grow in our relationship, that difference becomes more pronounces sometimes.<br /><br />I think it was just the right amount of caffeine =)SirQsmlbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17862547894051224264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-53375747844417895862012-11-13T09:54:52.714-07:002012-11-13T09:54:52.714-07:00YES!
beautiful post.YES!<br /><br />beautiful post.mamacrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484565827023574347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-87874580509767255422012-11-13T08:43:10.996-07:002012-11-13T08:43:10.996-07:00Given I had drank three cups of coffee before gett...Given I had drank three cups of coffee before getting to this, I think I may be on the right wave length for this to make sense.<br /><br />But now I'm going to need to do some thinking of my own.<br /><br />Because things always change, which I kind of dislike in some ways. There is a difference between minor changes that are just part of growing and evolving...then there are major changes. Not as big of a fan.<br /><br />I can see the merit in adapting to minor changes though...even if they do lead to major ones. I guess I'm there now. D/s and BDSM has been put on the back burner for nearly all aspects of my life. (except social bc I only know kinky folks, lol)<br /><br />It's a necessary shift for me to get to where I need to be. Which will lead to more changes, and adapting.<br /><br />This is becoming far longer than I meant it to be...I see a post in the near future on this. I'll be sure to link back to the place of inspiration. :)<br /><br />But yes, your post made lots of sense Lil. No worries about that!cuddlykittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13881140044927155623noreply@blogger.com