tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post6502124165522386813..comments2023-12-14T00:26:40.462-07:00Comments on Submissive Sanctuary: Hand JobsStormhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-56314141239672581892011-04-25T15:57:56.957-06:002011-04-25T15:57:56.957-06:00Lea, lol, yes, feeling incompetent sucks doesn'...Lea, lol, yes, feeling incompetent sucks doesn't it. And I'm so glad to hear that someone else's hand get tired--it sounds kind of silly to say, but damn, after a while I feel like my hand's just going to fall off lol.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-13329817264978312342011-04-25T15:40:38.673-06:002011-04-25T15:40:38.673-06:00I know I'm late to the game here, but I feel t...I know I'm late to the game here, but I feel the same way! The other day, I feel like I tried EVERYTHING to get The Dom to climax.... and nothing. I've always felt particulalrly awkward with handjobs too. Plus, my hand gets tired, so I keep having to switch. I felt totally incompetent.<br /><br />I was thinking that lube would make it so much easier, maybe I should really try that next time!Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213567388808206135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-45992215033384107092011-04-19T10:22:32.743-06:002011-04-19T10:22:32.743-06:00sfp, lmao, it's okay, laugh at my pain--that w...sfp, lmao, it's okay, laugh at my pain--that was kind of the point of the post.<br /><br />William, well, hand jobs have never been high up on the learning list as they seem to be about the least desirable way of getting off lol, so they haven't gotten all that much attention.<br /><br />Kytten, being a contortionist is not my strong point these days--one wrong twist and I'm stuck lol. And it's nice that you feel my pain, and quite nice it's not literal lol.<br /><br />Mockingbird, the problem with watching is it leads to involvement and it's never my hand lol.<br /><br />Master's piece, you aren't trying to choke the life out of it?! My bad...<br /><br />agog, I have never been good at guessing--it's like winning things, it only works for other people lol.<br /><br />foxy, Ooh, a link. It's on now.<br /><br />xantu, yea, same here--the orifices are just so muc more in demand lol. And as for receiving, eek--I hate it lol. it's frustrating and a tiny bit infuriating which is not accepted with good grace I might add.<br /><br />Bunny, yea, dealing with feelings of inadequacy is not my strong point. I tend to be rather graceless about it.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-21551815395066544582011-04-19T09:03:28.615-06:002011-04-19T09:03:28.615-06:00Just stumbled on your blog and I have the same thi...Just stumbled on your blog and I have the same thing - I've only ever been able to make my Sir cum from blowjobs or handjobs about twice in our relationship and I find it really frustrating! <br /><br />Like your Sir, mine continues to request them despite this and it's important to remember that they can and do enjoy us giving them pleasure via our hands even if we can't quite make them cum. If they weren't pleased with it they wouldn't keep requesting it.<br /><br />Definitely feel your pain; I know it gets me really upset at times :(Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05594679781902567279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-80295181878504124852011-04-18T07:44:21.881-06:002011-04-18T07:44:21.881-06:00Master always ends up pushing my hand away and goi...Master always ends up pushing my hand away and going for the mouth or some other convenient orifice. <br /><br />I do know that I have the same feelings about receiving... it feels good but for some infuriating reason I just can't come that way. After what seems an eternity, I just get almost infuriated/panicked/in total agony. ...soooo close, just... can't... quite... I end up squirming like a worm on a hook, whimpering, begging, pleading for something/anything. It appeals to his inner sadist.xantuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675631517761759089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-21435986356010639482011-04-17T17:35:38.039-06:002011-04-17T17:35:38.039-06:00I found you here through sfp's blog. Clicking ...I found you here through sfp's blog. Clicking on her blogroll is always fun!<br /><br />Last year I got fed up with my lack of handjob skills. Not that my man ever complained. I just never did them. They felt awkward and I wanted to fix that. I found the following site. Lots of options with visuals.<br /><br />www.handjobadvice.com <br /><br />Using lube makes a big difference. It was my lightbulb moment. Reading his body language helps too. The more you do it, the clearer the signs become. Hope the site helps. Good luck! :)foxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01290421820420798344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-70002309583728481622011-04-17T17:00:24.581-06:002011-04-17T17:00:24.581-06:00I think the biggest issues with us doing it for th...I think the biggest issues with us doing it for them is when they do it, they can feel and adjust to get what they want, how they want, etc...we're just guessing...agoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03620077077536411233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-8000112668907053922011-04-17T15:19:18.424-06:002011-04-17T15:19:18.424-06:00Ah now hand jobs are something one does well... al...Ah now hand jobs are something one does well... all those years of horse riding and massage, not to mention weight training, have given one a great hand. See this is where most women go wrong... they treat the damn thing like it is fragile. A firm hand, not a vice like grip (you aren't trying to choke the life out of it), is what is needed. And shake up the rhythm a little. Also watch your prey in action... in its natural habitat so to speak :D<br /><br />Another trick to try is get him to put his hand over yours and guide you a few times in the way he likes it. Good luck.Master's piecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14231917882994886480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-58544790631689090392011-04-17T15:03:02.407-06:002011-04-17T15:03:02.407-06:00I used to be the same way about blow jobs as well....I used to be the same way about blow jobs as well. Now I am totally able to brag about my skill with them. <br /><br />Hand jobs on the other "hand"... I'm pretty sub par at them as well. Maybe you can watch and see how he does it and pick up some pointers?Brittany Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18126522221541542289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-31160320055624107912011-04-17T12:27:13.206-06:002011-04-17T12:27:13.206-06:00LOL i am terrible at them too! Like William said, ...LOL i am terrible at them too! Like William said, watching Him do it to Himself helps. my Dom likes to play with His favorite parts (of me) while i give him hand jobs, which helps too. (Presents a challenge in terms of angle and sometimes i feel like He wants me to be a contortionist, but it seems to work for Him, so okay.)<br /><br />Mostly, though, i just wanted to say that i feel your pain (not literally...ahem). <br /><br />Hugs,<br />kyttenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-487442022674214062011-04-17T11:39:19.639-06:002011-04-17T11:39:19.639-06:00Have you had him give you pointers or maybe just w...Have you had him give you pointers or maybe just watch him do it to himself. That way you will see what turns him on. You might even enjoy watching him. My slut loves to watch me make myself cum. It makes her cum really hard if I cum while she is being stimulated. I hope this helps.<br /><br />WilliamWilliamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01978679146746236376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6393795333438979432.post-85915474006782682052011-04-17T11:08:27.490-06:002011-04-17T11:08:27.490-06:00OMG -- not that I'm laughing at your pain
but...OMG -- not that I'm laughing at your pain<br /><br />but until recently that's exactly how I felt about blow jobs -- and I had a partner who coached me through every second of it<br /><br />it was very domly<br />and very hot<br /><br />and he liked it as much as I did<br /><br />and it rebuilt my confidence<br /><br />but I know that's not helpful<br /><br />here's the thing about hand jobs -- we don't have the right angle for it<br /><br />also -- he's been doing it for (I don't know how old he is - but let's go with...) decades -- so yeah<br />he's good at it<br /><br />oh -- and I don't think we use enough lube when we do it -- <br /><br />sorry for your pain<br /><br />I suck at it too<br /><br />sfpstrivingforpeacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13985424060354882831noreply@blogger.com