Friday, March 25, 2016

Q&A, Round Two

From the ever awesome Misty,
"1. Consistency, how important is it?
2. Tell us a struggle you had in the beginning and how you overcame it. Or have you overcome it?
3. Have you ever read back through you blog and came across a post that made you think, "Boy, did I have it wrong!"?
4. Do you keep a journal? Has he ever read it? (I'm asking because I do, and we've talked about him reading it, but he's obviously not going to push me on it (which would sure make things easier on me! But I get why he won't.) and I don't know if I should let him. Okay, I probably should but I don't know if I want to.)"

Consistency...It's importance cannot be underestimated.
I have found that us subs can be rather inconsistent. We tend to ride up and down on waves that, while sometimes predictable, are certainly not the epitome of consistency.
Consistency in a sub, however, holds value--it's a lot of work for a dominant to keep up with a roller-coaster.
A dominant's consistency provides stability in an otherwise unstable world filled with occasionally unstable creatures. Consistency creates a sense of safety, and instills the knowledge that he means what he says. It is...Comforting.

A struggle from the beginning, and how I have or have not overcome it...He didn't trust me. Justifiably so, but it sucked. I didn't trust me either--the whole whore thing can be a bit tricky when one is lacking in self control and has been asked to let the monster out. The only fix for us was me being an open book, and him to make the calls for me about what was okay and what was not.
I took the easy way out on that one, didn't I?

Oh gods, yes! I have looked back at a few old posts and absolutely cringed. Witnessing one's own evolution is rarely pleasant...

This blog is the closest I have ever come to writing a journal. If I had a paper version, he would probably read it rarely, whenever the mood struck. If he felt like it. In random moments when I least expected it.

Thanks for the questions, Misty!

There is still plenty of time left in the month, so please keep the inspirations coming! I have one more question left, then I'll be all out of ideas, and lord knows I need them all (yes, ALL your ideas. I want them all to hoard and play with and take forever to get around too!)


  1. well you know what my question is! Are you peeing in a jar first thing in the morning? If not, have you found yourself missing it, or are you dreading it ever being reinstated?

    (((hugs))) it's lovely to see you blogging again, by the way.

    1. mc kitten,
      damn jar...

      It's lovely to see you here! I miss blogging regularly...

    2. I'm trying to get back into blogging regularly myself- not always easy, is it?!

  2. I wondered if you would apply this to both sides. I try to be consistent, really I do! Sometimes a brick wall just comes up out of nowhere and blocks my's not my fault. Consistency is important though, from both sides. For me, right now, it gives me proof that this is real.

    I hate those posts. In a way I wish they weren't there, but they are good reminders that we can change for the better.

    The journal...well...I need more coffee to think about that. Lol.

    Thanks for the answers!!

    1. Misty,
      well, I really didn't Want to apply it to both sides...Lol.

      Thanks for the questions!


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