For one, why are all these people so friggin young? I mean, does he even have a driver's license? I'm sorry, but if someone like that tried to dominate me, I think I might laugh at him...
And what's with the, "I had a messed up childhood, I don't do romance" bit? Lots of us had fucked up childhoods--sounds kind of like an implication that he's the way he is because he was ruined as a child (and yes, if I had bothered to read the books, I would probably already know the answer to my assumptions).
That contradictory little part of me wants to see the movie just because of the general outcry about how people shouldn't watch it. No doubt I'll watch it eventually...While he sits there and smirks, pouring out a plethora of inappropriate and annoyingly funny comments until he can't take it anymore and goes to do something else. I'm betting on ten minutes...
Anyways, I should probably stop talking disparagingly about something I've neither read nor seen. Lol.
I realized something though. Who we are, the things I have been so desperately running away from, him and the way he is...My life, what we have, our reality...Is someone elses fantasy. Hell, it's my fantasy (minus the migraines and debt, of course).
He says that I am wasting time, too much effort put into pretending to be something I'm not. He thinks that I'm a firecracker with the soul of a slave, wrapped up in a pretty package...
I do know that if I didn't have what we have, if he wasn't who he is, if he was not my master and I were not his slave, I would live a life unfulfilled--dreaming only of the fantasy that is my reality.
I've said it before, even though those of us you "live the lifestyle" will watch it and pick out all of the things in it that are unrealistic, it will set into motion a conversation among the "vanillas" in the world about the culture that many of us thrive in. That, in and of itself should be fun.
ReplyDeletesub hub,
Deletesuch conversations usually are fun. And not having read the books or seen the movie, I can't make any real judgement calls (besides about the quality of writing on the two pages I did read), I just wonder if they portrayed D/s as kind of a side-effect of emotional damage...Well, among other wonderings lol.
So here is the thing, 50 shades was an unreadable book (and i only tired one of the trilogy), partly due to the fact it was unrealistic but mostly due to the fact it was so badly written. The film is being reviewed as absolute rubbish, even the promised sex does't live up to expectations since there is no chemistry between the lead characters.
ReplyDeleteSo move on to real life, maybe he is right? Maybe just go with what he says. So speaks a woman of 52 who spent her life trying to pretend otherwise.
julie,
DeleteI wanted to read them...I skimmed through a couple pages of one in the bookstore and just couldn't do it though, lol.
He is right *sigh*. One would think that going with what he says would come easier at this point...
Don't waste your time with the books, I know enough about you to know they would drive you crazy. I read something awhile back that went something like, "This is one time a movie has a chance to be better than the book it was based off of." I do see why it appeals to some though...
ReplyDelete"firecracker with the soul of a slave, wrapped up in a pretty package..." That's sweet!
So, I have this nagging voice in my head that keeps telling me I shouldn't have told you not to waste your time because, who knows, you might actually like them!
DeleteMisty,
DeleteI did read two pages! Couldn't manage to like the writing. I can get past all kinds of unrealistic stuff, but...
It was sweet. Even if I did try to disagree with him. *Head desk*
minus the migraines and debt....
ReplyDeletemaybe he has a point.
CM,
Deletejust maybe. Lol.
I am going to watch it tomorrow night with some girlfriends so i shall blog what i think about it afterwards.
ReplyDeleteI did read the books and well, poorly written but funny, and not in a way that they were meant to be funny, i think perhaps those in D/s relationships are more critical than those that are not because reality is a lot different to fantasy.
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tori,
DeleteOoh, do tell how the movie went! I won't see it until it comes out on DVD.
See, I like funny, but not in my fantasy reading--at least not if it has nothing to do with the writer actually having a sense of humor...
I read the first two books and skimmed the third. They were kind of fun and lite sexy at first, but the characters got pretty annoying after a short time. There wasn't nearly enough kink in them, either. I'll read the Story of O again instead, even though that also has its flaws.
ReplyDeleteksst,
DeleteI have a hard time with stories whose main characters annoy me. I like having someone to root for or identify with...
Oh, and one of my Master's coworkers has already said she won't see the movie because it could not hope to live up to the books that she loves. Different strokes!
ReplyDeleteI may watch it at some point after it's on Prime or Netflix, or maybe redbox it. Or be bad have Daddy download it from somewhere. Once I found out the books were written in present tense, my willingness to read for curiosity reasons dropped...a lot. I'm weird like that.
ReplyDeleteAlthough, funnily enough, I told my mother (who is aware of the nature of my proclivities somewhat) that a girlfriend (platonic but a regular play partner) and I were going to dinner and a movie on Valentine's since she's single and my man is far away. Her response was "50 Shades?"
Um, no. Even if we were gonna pay money to see it, certainly not on Valentine's Day. We're gonna go see Seventh Son, cause we're nerds.
Simina,
Deleteooh, yes--I can't stand present tense books. For all of the mass amounts of fiction I have consumed in my life, I think that I've probably read only one or two present tense.
Saw seventh son on kiddo's birthday--it was pretty cool.
I am living the fantasy that was the life I once thought I shared with the one I loved enough to risk everything. Fantasy sucks! I will not be seeing the movie because I just can't stand watching someone else doBDSM. I am sure it would break me entirely.
ReplyDeleteSue,
DeleteWhile I do think that fantasy can have its place, I can also see how it could be like rubbing salt in wounds depending on one's situation.
I read all three, the first being the best of the bunch. Literature its not, but I don't think it is any worse that some of the stuff I've read, hell even some of the stuff I write. lol
ReplyDeleteI'm going to see it with five friends because i want to see what they do with it. Ray would be just like Alpha except that I'm not sure he would last ten minutes.
This post sounds more like you - so glad.
sunnygirl,
Deleteit's good to feel more like me!
I credited him with ten minutes because he likes to make fun of stuff...Though I'm not certain I could guarantee that long of a stint. Lol.
I read all three books also and agree with Ancilla and Leigh. Definitely curious to see the movie. Love Alpha's description of you ... minus the migraines and debt ...
ReplyDeleteHugs
Roz
Roz,
DeleteI am curious too...
I made it though the first book, barely. Then I found Jenny Trout reads 50 Shades of Grey (all three books). Her recaps are hilarious, as are the audio clips of the recaps. I vote they make Jenny's recaps into a SNL skits then we can call skip the movie.
ReplyDeletepet ka,
Deleteit sounds like some of the spoofs are absolutely hilarious!
I tried to read the first book but I was bored, didn't like either character, not nearly enough sex for a book about sex. I went to the movie. There was a lot of talk about sex, but very little sex actually happened, and I would consider all of it to be romantic/lovemaking, while he spent the entire movie telling her he didn't do romance and lovemaking.
ReplyDeleteTicklish,
DeleteI feel very strongly that every book should have at least one character that you can actually like!
Lol @ the romance bit.
Oh, how I laughed: "every book should have at least one character you can actually like" ! Can I send you Getting It Right ?
ReplyDeleteI was tickled the books tweaked the world's interest, but bothered by so many things-like, there are so many other books that do it, so much better. And yes, the ages. Children. And bugged to no end by the implication that a difficult childhood led to D/s. Insulting, like the idea that lesbians begin as abused heterosexual women. Sigh.
Ok. End of rant. You got me rolling.
Saoirse,
Deletethere's really nothing quite as frustrating as a book without any likeable characters in it!
Send away...
I'm good at getting people rolling. I'm usually on a pretty good role about something anyways...I live to inspire. Lol.
Ok So there were so many comments that I didn't read them all. I will say I LOVED the books. Yes she's not Shakespeare but she was an indie author when she first published. I think people are bitter that they didn't make the millions. Hey I'm also paycheck to paycheck. I get it. But the books opened my eyes. You can't just read a few pages. That's not really fair. Read all three books and then say you don't like them. But maybe that's just coming from me and my vanilla life I had before fsog. I have read at least 100 more books since then. So many people want to be negative and put those negative beliefs onto other people. Just read the books first. I can send you my ecopies
ReplyDeleteCherished,
DeleteI think that with books, it is all dependent on perspective and what one enjoys in the writing style of the stories they read.
I am happy to hear that the shades of grey series had a positive impact on your life--anytime something we read has an effect like that, it' a good thing!