Monday, March 2, 2015

A Question of Subspace

Thanks to everyone for their responses to my plea for March queries! They should keep me busy for a while. Though, the month is long, so there's no need to stop asking now...

I am going to answer questions in the order received with possibly a couple of detours to watch the butterflies here and there ('cuz I'm good like that. Or short attention span. Whatever).

Collared Mom asked, "What, if anything, helps you get/stay in subspace?"

Because I'm so good at over-complicating things, I am going to clarify my definition of subspace (because, why simple?)

Subspace is a place that I don't think of as being desirable to stay in beyond whatever interaction induced it (though it does tend not to just disappear on cue). It's not a generally submissive feeling--more of a drugged sensation in which normal functioning is not even conceivable.

Honestly, it's been a while since I was in subspace--too much on my mind all the time. Ironically, it is about the only thing that is ever guaranteed to shut my brain up, but I digress...

Pain. Pain gets me into subspace. Now, to be clear, I don't actually like pain all that much. In fact, I'm a bit of a wimp, but it does tend to do the trick quite nicely. Though, of course, there is the little issue that pain becomes markedly more appealing from the depths of subspace...
Being pissed on. While I don't object to this one as much as I object to pain, it often has a way of taking me down quite well.
Talking. Now, this one doesn't really accomplish the goal all on its own, but...Him telling me what he's going to do to me, that I am his, etc. And then there are those terrible times when he makes me talk to. I hate it. With a passion. But...There is something about admitting/acknowledging certain things out loud, which has a way of helping my brain go to mush.
The oft dreaded enema. I feel the need not to expound on this one. Lol.
Sex. Sometimes sex gets me there. But only good choking, slapping kinky sex. The annoying thing is, I only really enjoy sex when I'm in subspace, so this one is a bit of a catch twenty-two for me.
Really, a combination of all the above seems to work the best. Sometimes it takes a lot to get there.

As to the issue of staying in subspace, it takes me so much to get there, that my struggle usually comes in crawling out of it to resume normal functioning. I think that perhaps the trick to staying there comes in going so far down that prematurely snapping out of it isn't even an option...?

As a side note...The keys on my laptop have gone completely haywire, so if I'm missing an abnormal amount of t's, the occasional c, and other random letters, please know that I have not completely lost my ability to to form semi-coherent sentences. Lol.


  1. Speaking of having a hard time coming back... One time I snapped out of it real fast. All he had to say was, "Uh, oh." The hook was in and I immediately thought the ball came off inside me. I was so scared. Lol. Thank goodness that wasn't it!

    1. Misy,
      I'm terribly curious...Since your buns of steel didn't break the hook, what was the "Uh oh" about??

    2. For the life of me I can't remember, I do remember being mad that he said that over something so little. If it was possible to think clearly I would have remembered how tight I put that ball on there, every single time...

  2. Good description....for me all the stars have to be perfectly aligned..and i have to stop over's a surprise that it has happened.
    hugs abby

    1. abby,
      the next meeting of over-thinkers anonymous is scheduled for 12:00 AM through 4:00 AM tonight and every other night. I'll be waiting with coffee!

  3. This was interesting Lil, I don't think I have experienced it yet. I suppose those of you that have would tell me if I had, I'd know lol.


    1. Roz,
      I do think it's one of those things where you know when it has happened, even if you don't have a name to put to it...It's pretty undeniable!

  4. Question for March, the deeper into subspace you go, do you find you suffer from sub drop? Or irrelevant?

    1. Anon,
      I will add your question to my list. Thanks!

  5. Subspace is such a wanderful thing, i find to harder to get there though these days.

    I have never gotten there through sex though, wish i could, perhaps it would help with my lack of confidence...hmm im going to ponder on this now lol


    1. tori,
      oh it is a wonderful thing, isn't it?
      Sorry about the pondering, lol.

  6. Subspace is a wonderful and I've struggled a little in trying to explain it. Your "drugged sensation" description is as good of a description as I have seen. You have a natural ability as an excellent writer. Thanks for having this blog.

    Much love.


    1. sub hub,
      Thank you!
      I don't feel like there has been a whole lot worth reading here lately, so your comment is extra appreciated!


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