Thanks to everyone for their responses to my plea for March queries! They should keep me busy for a while. Though, the month is long, so there's no need to stop asking now...
I am going to answer questions in the order received with possibly a couple of detours to watch the butterflies here and there ('cuz I'm good like that. Or short attention span. Whatever).
Collared Mom asked, "What, if anything, helps you get/stay in subspace?"
Because I'm so good at over-complicating things, I am going to clarify my definition of subspace (because, why simple?)
Subspace is a place that I don't think of as being desirable to stay in beyond whatever interaction induced it (though it does tend not to just disappear on cue). It's not a generally submissive feeling--more of a drugged sensation in which normal functioning is not even conceivable.
Honestly, it's been a while since I was in subspace--too much on my mind all the time. Ironically, it is about the only thing that is ever guaranteed to shut my brain up, but I digress...
Pain. Pain gets me into subspace. Now, to be clear, I don't actually like pain all that much. In fact, I'm a bit of a wimp, but it does tend to do the trick quite nicely. Though, of course, there is the little issue that pain becomes markedly more appealing from the depths of subspace...
Being pissed on. While I don't object to this one as much as I object to pain, it often has a way of taking me down quite well.
Talking. Now, this one doesn't really accomplish the goal all on its own, but...Him telling me what he's going to do to me, that I am his, etc. And then there are those terrible times when he makes me talk to. I hate it. With a passion. But...There is something about admitting/acknowledging certain things out loud, which has a way of helping my brain go to mush.
The oft dreaded enema. I feel the need not to expound on this one. Lol.
Sex. Sometimes sex gets me there. But only good choking, slapping kinky sex. The annoying thing is, I only really enjoy sex when I'm in subspace, so this one is a bit of a catch twenty-two for me.
Really, a combination of all the above seems to work the best. Sometimes it takes a lot to get there.
As to the issue of staying in subspace, it takes me so much to get there, that my struggle usually comes in crawling out of it to resume normal functioning. I think that perhaps the trick to staying there comes in going so far down that prematurely snapping out of it isn't even an option...?
As a side note...The keys on my laptop have gone completely haywire, so if I'm missing an abnormal amount of t's, the occasional c, and other random letters, please know that I have not completely lost my ability to to form semi-coherent sentences. Lol.