Friday, March 20, 2015

Questions of Kink and Munches

This round comes from tori:
1) is there anything kink or even non-kink wise that you would like to explore that Alpha has no interest in?

2) Would you like to go to any kinky clubs or munches, why? or have you been to any and if so experiences?

So this is a little difficult because I tend to use his okay as justification for the kinks that I find attractive--if he likes it, I can justify it to myself as being okay. If he doesn't like it, I dismiss it until the idea no longer holds interest for me. If that makes any sense...

I would like to check out kinky clubs or munches. I've never had any face-to-face interaction (that I am aware of anyways, lol) with people who have relationships like ours, and I think that it would be an interesting experience. You know, just to physically be around people who live like we do, and have it be openly accepted...
This is maybe one of those areas where I have more interest than him. Though, I'm not sure that's accurate...Where we were before, there just wasn't really any opportunity that didn't have to be traveled to. Now, his job makes keeping this part of our lives to ourselves private pretty important, and there's nothing quite like opening announcing it to a group of strangers to make a person feel like their secrets are going to get hung out to dry.

I feel like I didn't really do these questions justice...It's  bit difficult to get into the kinky mindset these days--he's working 80 hours a week, and I have somehow once again found myself rewriting operations manuals which are larger than the average book--we're both drowning a bit at the moment...


  1. Ohn Lil, I'm so sorry this haven't turned out as promised. The rosy picture presented is often so not what it turns out to be. He's going to suffer burnout - 80 hours a week, way too much to be 'on'.

    1. sunnygirl,
      Thank you!
      Honestly, the hours are not a surprise--this was expected for the first half of the year. Now should it continue on too far past that...My attempted zen shall disappear.
      Yes, it is too much. And no, it's not really optional right now. But it should not be a long term state of affairs...

  2. thankyou

    We no longer go to clubs, parties anymore, and i miss it a lot sometimes, for the aspect of physically interacting with people, not necessarily playing with them but just like you said being around people similar to ourselves.

    As an aside, i echo what Leigh Smith said, but also for total selfish reasons, i miss seeing you around in blogland.


    1. tori,
      thanks for the questions. I wish that I felt like I really did them justice!

      I miss it here too. It's far more entertaining and less stressful than codes and laws...Plus, I do feel so much more at home here than anywhere else these days!

  3. Hi Lil, I too echo what Leigh said. I'm so sorry things haven't turned out as you thought.

    I'm not sure how I feel about clubs and munches, but agree it would be great just to interact with others.


    1. Roz,
      the extent of his hours should drop in he foreseeable future--it's not exactly a surprise, just not super pleasant!

      I have always kid of felt that it would be cool to get that opportunity to have coffee with the like-minded...


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