My life's just one huge upheaval, so I figured that I'd take a moment to complain about other people instead. Sounds fair, right?
We have these friends...Okay, well, her and I are not exactly friends, but I think my reasoning for that will become apparent if you stick with me while I rant.
He's a great person. Loyal, easygoing, awesome father, etc. He made it possible for her to spend years in school for the career she wanted, followed her across the friggin ocean as she chased whims because what she has is never good enough, and based his whole life around what she wanted.
She treats him like shit. She's cool enough to hang out with until she starts talking about him, then...Wow. She talks about him as if he's a lower life form. She talks to him like he's a total idiot who should never have thoughts of his own.
How do you love that? How do you live when only one person's dreams matter? I mean, I know that I chose a relationship where his wants and desires come first, but I am still allowed my dreams. He may piss all over me and treat me like nothing more than the whore at his feet, but at the end of the day, he values me. He values who I am, how I think, my hopes and dreams...
And really, if you're going to talk shit about the person you're with, isn't it best to keep it between the two of you?
I mean, if he tells someone that I don't like tomatoes, I don't see a need to throw a fit and rip him a new one in the middle of that someone's kitchen, about daring to say that because I actually do like tomatoes. It would be simple enough just to say, actually, I would like a piece of tomato this time...
Got sidetracked by examples there...
It seems to be a common issue for me when it comes to forming friendships with other couples--I just have no interest in sitting down and having a complaint fest about the man I married. Wives bitch about their husbands, husbands hide things from their wives, respect seems to go the way of the dinosaurs...Why people choose to stay together when they don't even seem to like each other, is beyond me.
What's wrong with respecting the person you're with? Since when did couples who offer each other common courtesy and respect (which one would think would be a pretty basic relationship requirement) make for being socially unacceptable??
The way we treat each other matters. Why does that seem like such a foreign concept to so many people?