Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Energy, Realities, and Associated Ramblings

A comment that Michael left on my last post got me to thinking. I'm pretty sure that I have wandered quite far from the original intent of the comment, but inspiration can be funny like that.

I have said before that energy is everything, and everything is ultimately about energy. As much as my views seem to change and collide over time, I still believe this one to be true.

I think that, for the most part, we all tend to walk on a fine line between El Mundo Bueno and El Mundo Malo (The Good Reality and The Bad Reality). That fine line avoids extremes of good and bad events, and provides life with a sense of balance.

Sometimes we fall into a Good Reality, where the extremes are good. Pain is good, pleasure is good, tears are a release--not a torment. Outcomes are as we wish them to be.
Other times, we fall into a Bad Reality, and the extremes are bad. Anything that can go wrong will, pain is bad, pleasure is warped, tears are no more than an expression of misery.
And we adapt to viewing events with the notion that they will inevitably become as terrible as they possibly can.

I believe that the difference between these realities is about the energy in them.

For me, S/m isn't really about pain, sex isn't just about pleasure, and D/s isn't all about physical control.
These things are about energy exchanges and the realities that we create within those exchanges.

I have been injured, I have been raped, I have lacked control in situations wherein I desperately needed to have control. Those were not good experiences.
But Alpha can hurt me, he can force me, he can take away all semblances of my control.
And those are some of the most amazing experiences of my life.
The simplest difference of those very complex subjects? The first set of events is a Bad Reality. The second set of events is a Good Reality.

Disassociation is about an extreme place on the fine line between realities. It's a place of non-feeling, non-energy...Nothingness of mind.
It is not a place that I am fond of, but it is one that I used to be very good at getting to. Sometimes I still fight not to go there--old habits are hard to break. And sometimes it is only Alpha's extreme dislike of that place which keeps me out of it.

The more time you spend together, and the more you explore, the stronger resonances with each other become.
A look creates a physical reaction, a sound creates a feeling, an expressed thought creates a mental state.

As different as they can be, all of those experiences have one thing in common--energy.

As much as I want him to fuck my body, I need him to fuck my mind. I need the connection that energy exchange provides.
Energy makes the mindfuck possible (we'll ignore for the moment, that people often seem to find me by searching for the term "Mindfuck" and usually what I meant was not at all what they were looking for).

Really, it's all about a looping exchange of energy--power exchange is energy exchange, the give and take of pain is energy exchange, surrender and control are about energy exchange.

It's about the beasts within, which ones we choose to feed, and how we choose to sate their hunger.

And we try to do it all in a way that will allow us to spend more time in El Mundo Bueno.


  1. Very well stated, and it is that energy exchanged that makes the TTWD so intoxicating, and makes the bond that much sweeter.

    Two become one, as each gives of themselves;though at times that is not easy, but when achieved it is true bliss.

    Thank you for the thought provoking post.

    1. Anna May,
      Thank you.
      Intoxicating is a great word for it! And yea, it really is...

  2. Two words come to mind LOVE and TRUST. Combined they make El Mundo Bueno.

    1. sunnygirl,
      I suddenly feel excessively verbose...

      I think that you are quite right.

  3. Another thought provoking post lil. And I understood it :) I'm glad you've found that person to give you the 'good realities'.

    Dee x

    1. Dee,
      I usually do wonder if anyone is going to understand the confusion that pours out of my mind lol.
      Did it take one cup of coffee or two? Lol.

      I'm glad too.

  4. That's a really good way of looking at it. I think a lot of people don't realize how much of an energy exchange it really is.



    1. Turiya,
      Thank you.

      I think it's more difficult to understand if you haven't had the opportunity for comparison of what it's like without that energy exchange. Though that chance for comparison isn't usually pleasant...

  5. Hi Lil, excellent post and well stated.



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