Thursday, July 17, 2014

Sometimes I Want to Kick Him

That's putting it mildly.

He puts everything off until the last minute, which in turn not only stresses me out, it leaves me scrambling to do what I have to do, because what I have to do is always invariably linked to what he has to do.

I need a payroll summary to renew our insurance. Been asking for it since last month. Nada.
Credit card payment needed to be made. I reminded him repeatedly. It's now overdue.
There are serious issues with the contract this company wants him to sign. He's putting off dealing with it for yet another day, when everything is on a tight deadline and I'm the one who has to get it all notarized (yes, living where we do, that is a big deal).
He uses chess to avoid life and dealing with shit that needs to be dealt with. Or me. Whichever is more present at the moment.

When I bring any of it up, I'm nagging. When he does it all too late, it sucks for everyone and costs us money we don't have.

So here really soon, we're not going to have insurance.
The credit card payment is larger.
The contract thing is just a fucking nightmare.
And I'll most likely be navigating my way through various parades to get his shit notarized because he put it off to the last fucking minute.
The chess thing just pisses me off.

This slave shit is highly overrated.

It's a shame that the week's not over yet...
The last time I did a post like this, he got pretty pissed off at me. Guess I'll find out right quick if he still reads here, huh?


  1. I can totally relate. Instead of chess it's computer RPG games. Instead of business stuff it's health and house stuff, but the underlining frustration is the same. Know you are not alone in this frustration. Big hugs.

    1. Anon,
      I must admit, it is nice to hear that I'm not the only one who feels these frustrations.

      I don't usually get quite this frustrated. He doesn't usually let the really big things pile up like this though...

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    1. Jz,
      Yes well, upon reviewing the post, I think that's a pretty generous way to put it. If it disappears, you'll know that courage quickly faded, lol.

  3. Oh, Lil.
    Oh yeah. You aren't alone. And I hate the delays or the frustrations that end up costing us the dollars--it's never a peaceful place to be and I'm sure it feels like you are alone in the frustration.
    Deep breaths. You'll find a way.

    1. Oh Bleuame, I was so happy to see this comment, I almost feel guilty.
      My sentiments feel far from slavey.

      Really, it was the delay in dealing with the contract that put me over the edge--if they refuse to amend it, he can't sign it, no job. And it all absolutely Must be worked out within a few days...

      Thank you for this! Sometimes it seems almost wrong to feel this way so strongly, given our arrangement...It's oddly comforting to know that someone in a very similar dynamic experiences the same frustrations.

  4. Wow! I read your post & thought all the apprpriate thoughts then realized .... Fuck, I am just like Him! (only I haven't had anybody to "nag" me!!!)


    Hope it all works out ... Favorably for you both!!

    1. geekie kittie,
      Maybe there are two kinds of people in the world--the one's who procrastinate, and the one's who wish everything could be done yesterday...

      Thank you!

  5. Lil I still have a bill that I've been asking Sir to pay for over a month, it drives me insane! I do all the online payment stuff, but if a check needs written, he needs to do that. I completely understand where you're coming from. :-/

    1. Awkward Frog Blue,
      Here I do the checks, he does online...It's frustrating sometimes! Maybe I'll eventually get that whole grace thing down...

  6. ok, honestly, for years it was like that, I would get frustrated when the nagging couldn't get something done that he needed to do. And then, I don't know why, I finally relaxed a bit about it. And now, it's not that he has stopped procrastinating, not at all, but that I also have things I have put off so long they are embarrassing (that he has to nag me to do). And his crap doesn't bug me as much.

    Which isn't a solution, I get that, but it bugs me less. And no one died.


    1. fury,
      You know, it might not be a solution, but it is a valid approach. I've adapted it somewhat over the years, and I feel better about life, things do eventually get done, I'm far less stressed, and he doesn't feel nagged.

      Sometimes though...It's too many things at once! And his procrastination complicates my life, yet he wants what I need to do to be done pronto....

      Lol @ no one died. Good to know! One can never be sure with these things...

  7. Lil, you are definitely not alone in this frustration. I hope everything gets sorted quickly in both your favour.

    Huge (((Hugs)))

  8. He probably got pissed because the truth hit him in the face. They can be such procrastinators when it's something they don't want to do. God Forbid though you procrastinate on something they want done, then it's hurrry hurry hurry.

    I do understand wanting to put your foot up his (you name it) a**

    1. sunnygirl,
      It is interesting (to put it nicely) what happens when one puts off something they want done...Hardly fair!

  9. I literally snorted when I read your title, 'cause me too!

    I haven't read all the comments but I, for one, couldn't be happier to see this. The way I see it is that, we think we shouldn't have these types of feelings, we should just be okay with everything they do ('cause that's what a good sub does, right?), but the reality is that it won't always be that way. Sometimes we will think they need a kick in the ass (or shins, lol) too...the important part is that you keep you hands and feet to yourself at ALL times. Lol.

    I can't imagine that you're happy about being frustrated with him...

    1. Misty
      Hmph, Happy?! I see how it is! (just kidding, couldn't resist the opportunity).

      I think that sometimes these are the feelings we don't really share because they are maybe not so respectful, or they highlight our collective humanity, or whatever. These are also the kind of posts though, that made me feel like we were okay when I read them somewhere else in the beginning of our Ds, because we will all have times like these and while it may be unrealistic to expect not to, sometimes we just can't help it!

      Lmao, yes--at ALL times!!! He keeps telling me that...Teeth too! It's sooo unfair.


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