Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Fuck my Mind, or--Mindsex at it's Best

I said "Fuck my mind", not "Fuck with my mind". There's a very large difference between the two. And it is perhaps an exceptionally crude description of the former.

I never took physics or chemistry (at any level), so this is not going to be a very technical post because technically, I have no idea what I'm talking about. Let's just cover a couple of basics then I'll drift off into that abstract stuff I love so much.
I got a few questions last time I mentioned this concept, so I'll try to cover my bases a bit more this time lol.

If we need to be logical about things (not my strong point, I'll admit)...

Energy is an indirectly observed quantity that cannot be created or destroyed. Matter is equivalent to energy in accordance with it's mass, and energy can be transferred from one system to another (thank you Wikipedia).

Everything in the Universe is energy because energy is the building block of all matter. The sub-atomic particles of our bodies are pure energy, and we each generate an energy field that extends outside of our bodies.

Thoughts are a powerful form of energy because they move through time and space in a way that our physical bodies do not (you would think this belief would make me less of a cynic, but at least I have plenty of room to evolve lol).

When we talk about BDSM, we tend to focus on the physical aspects and the effect it has on our minds. Often neglected from the sub side is the focus and energy it takes to Dominate. And while the physical focus is important, the mental focus is what creates the control that makes those physical circumstances possible.

It is a circular symbiotic feeding of need on both sides of the power equation.

With enough focus of thought and energy, Alpha can make me dripping wet by touching nothing more than my head (though I have found that a hand on my head and one on my sacrum is the most intense. Maybe it has something to do with completing the loop...). Anyways, that's saying something, given the fact that I seem to be "Exceptionally difficult to turn on".
It is a very simple concept though, and the base of it is an exchange of power manifested in the focus and exchange of energy.
It's a bit like flying dreams where trying to hard makes it so you can't get off the ground, and you have to keep your mind on that even middle road to actually fly.

In one way or another, at one time or another, intentionally or not, and to varying extents--we all experience this exchange of energy because we are energy.

Where was I, ooh yes--mindsex lol.

If he goes to fast or takes me down at a speed I can't keep up with, I get an extremely unpleasant bout of vertigo and he has to bring me back up enough for me to be solid in reality before continuing. This usually only occurs if I am resisting and can cause a mild state of panic. Because I'm focusing on the sensation of loss of self more than the attachment to him.

I think that subspace (you know, that little term we all define differently but seems to be the only word we have for a particular experience),  is an energetic event that manifests itself in a mental state which impacts our physical reality.

Energy is why sex is not equal to intimacy, and physical proximity does not equal closeness.

18 comments:

  1. Need more coffee to process this lol

    x

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  2. This made a lot of sense to me. The last sentence of your post spoke volumes.

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    1. dancingbarez,
      It always makes me happy to hear I made sense! I'm so rarely sure if I do or not...

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  3. Great post lil, I'm a huge believer in the energy of the universe and manifesting it.

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    1. Thank you faerie. For me, it's easier to believe than to do!

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  4. Yes!
    I often think a huge part of learning to be a great Dominant is learning how to manipulate or work that energy...:o)

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  5. Great post lil. I would have to agree with you on all accounts. I really agree with the part about it being a circular symbiotic feeding of need on both sides of the power equation. Why it works for some and not for others is sometimes confusing to me and I wonder why me? I guess that is why my husband is my husband because we feed off each other. Also he is pretty awesome. Lol

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    1. Blondie,
      Thank you.
      I'm not sure why it works for some and not others. Maye it has to do with ability to focus, let go, and willingness to be close to each other.

      Lol--awesome is great!

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  6. Been lurking for a while. Just got around to joining. I really enjoyed this post. Now I'm off to ponder...

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    1. JustAnotherSub,
      Nice to see you de-lurk, and welcome officially to my crazy corner.
      Enjoy your ponderings!

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  7. I have been trying so hard not to over think, then you went and wrote this! lol

    Its interesting because putting all the physical aspects to one side, its how our mind works and how we process thoughts that forms submission and dominance i think, we can still be one or the other without actually submitting or dominating but naturally when the 2 come together there are 2 different thought processes going on.

    Im still thinking on this.

    x

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    1. tori,
      sorry lol.
      I like the thoughts you have had so far!

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  8. Ok so i commented in the new way in the reader and it seems the comment doesn't end up here. Strange. So i was saying; i love this post and if you wouldn't mind i might link to it at some point (when i remember *Lol*). Thank you for a good post :-)

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    1. melinda,
      well I'm glad you came by to comment this way! I don't use google reader, and I have no idea where your first comment went!
      Glad you liked the post and you are very welcome to link whenever you wish. Let me know when you get around to it--I would love to read your thoughts on this subject.

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