Sunday, September 14, 2014

Filling the Void

I was writing something totally unrelated to the blog, and in my easily distracted way, I had to run over and start a post. Because yea...Butterflies and sparkly things.

I think that D/s fills voids. You know, those little cracks that life seems to leave in one's being? Yea, those.
I think that we either seek out D/s to fill the void, or discover down the road that it in some way fulfills the function of doing so.

The truth is, we are all at least a little bit broken. That's what life does to us, how we form our character, it is a huge part of what makes us who we are. We're always searching for some way to patch the cracks, even if we don't know why, what we're looking for, or indeed sometimes that we are searching in the first place.

Humans are a bit like bowls--we hold everything that has been put in us, and there's no way to be scrubbed clean while we are full. It might seem like a bit of a dichotomy to say that we have voids and cracks, but are full at the same time. Yet...perhaps the cracks are the voids.

D/s has a way of breaking open the cracks so the dirt can fall out and we can be put back together with gold. I used to try and wash away the filth of the things that had happened to me, and fill the cracks with anything I could find. Our D/s has washed me out and patched me back together.

Maybe that's one of the reasons that subs often crave the "Breaking". Because we feel that if D/s broke it, D/s will fill the cracks it created. Then, instead of being shattered beyond repair, we are held together by something beautiful. And we become something more than what we were before.


  1. I'm so glad you are easily distracted. This post resonated so deeply for me, helped me take another step towards some clarity, which is often a rare thing for me. Thank you.

    1. Faerie,
      I am glad that you found something of use in this post.

      I hope that all is well with you and your Musicman.

  2. WOW...distraction is good for you...and us. I love this, i really love the last paragraph. I am feeling a little broken, letting my mind wander to places that.....are not positive. I needed that last paragraph...thanks..
    hugs abby

    1. abby,
      Thank you!
      I think that we all wander to those less than positive places sometimes. It's easy to get stuck there!

  3. Loved this, its not something i have thought about in the way you expressed it, but yes so very true.


    1. tori,
      happy to hear that you liked it!
      Sometimes thinking about it like this is...Dunno, makes it all more okay for me, I guess.

  4. Wow Lil, great post and beautifully written! Once again, much food for thought ... Thank you :)


  5. It doesn't sound so bad when you put it that way...

    I must think about this some more!

    1. Misty,
      That's why I try to think of it this way!

      Sorry about the whole thinking thing...

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    1. lm,
      I don't know whether to say thank you, or I'm sorry...

  7. OH! Oh, oh yes... Must think more about this...

    apologies for the lack articulation, we've been away, came back to today, drove 6hours straight (well with one break) which is a LOT more than normal!

    1. mc kitten,
      careful, thinking can be dangerous!

      Only one break? I hope you had an adequate supply of coffee...

    2. no coffee, still breastfeeding. a rather nice non-alcoholic frozen magherita at our favourite motorway services though.

      really not sure if it's cool or sad that we have a favourite motorway services!


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