Someone asked me if I had any ideas about getting a discreet collar for everyday wear.
Personally, I like the chain-mail necklaces (the link will take you to a page of Google images).
There are many different styles, and a pendant can change the look of the whole thing. I have only gotten compliments on mine and never any questions. Most are designed with a nickel link in the clasp chain so it will break if it gets yanked on hard enough or caught on something.
If you can find one made out of silver, it will be quite expensive, and the stainless steel will turn your neck green. Depending on the size, they can also be somewhat heavy.
I have been drooling over an eternity collar for some time. Not having ever worn one, I have no idea how comfortable they are to live in. Though I have read some complaints about their comfort level lol.
And I do think that staying away from O rings and going with some other kind of pendant changes the look of everything collar related.
This is one where I'm thinking readers might have some ideas and perhaps even links to online retailers. *Bats eyelashes nicely.
There is also the idea that something doesn't absolutely have to be a collar to have the same meaning. Anklets, bracelets, or a necklace purchased for the purpose of symbolizing the collar work just as well. It's the thought and intent that the jewelry exists and is worn solely for said purpose that counts.
I would also keep in mind that a lot can be chalked up to eccentric taste in jewelry. I think that people very rarely think twice about collar style jewelry--most of them don't associate it with D/s because they really have no clue that there might be meaning behind it.