I think I need some help here...Because honestly, I have no idea what I'm talking about with this one, but I'm going for it anyways lol.
"Any tips for making a long distance D/s relationship work? It had online for four years (on/off) previously, then we met up IRL over the summer - things have been difficult ever since I got back."
Not having lived with a long distance D/s relationship, and not knowing "what" has been difficult, makes this a slightly more complicated question for me.
I guess that the first thing I would do is ask myself a few questions--why the relationship has been on/off for four years, why it became more difficult after meeting IRL, and what we each need out of the relationship. Then I would take that general line of questioning and the answers I arrived at to my partner for an in-depth discussion.
Because, I think that trying to figure out why a relationship isn't working like we feel it should, is a necessary first step to making it work.
In my opinion, anything we can do to reinforce the exchange of power will strengthen a D/s relationship. But it isn't always about the D/s--at it's core, every relationship is about the people in it. How they think, feel, live, love, and need.
Sometimes when we take a step back and look at a relationship as a whole, not just it's parts, it becomes easier to achieve what we want and need within that relationship.
I'm sorry to say that I don't have any particular ideas about making a long distance D/s relationship work. Perhaps someone else would like to jump in and contribute to this one...?