Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Competence is Sexy

Do you ever feel as if you are probably repeating yourself, but the idea feels semi-unused, so you write it anyways? No? Just me then...

People say that intelligence is sexy. I get it, intelligence can be an extremely attractive trait, especially when one has a low idiot tolerance. But I don't find intelligence itself to be inherently sexy--I have known some brilliant people who's minds I found not in the least bit attractive.

No, my weakness is competence.

Want to see the whore in me squirming under the surface? Drop me in the presence of a competent man with a Dominant personality. I avoid them as much as I can. You know, besides the obvious pitfalls of being married to one...

Stupidity turns me off. Incompetence really brings out the mean girl in me (as my husband likes to remind me). A mixture of stupidity and incompetence, and my worst traits come pouring forth in a nastily predatory manner. But uh, we don't have to talk about that since he's not here to promote the fact.

Luckily for me, I married a man who is both intelligent, and competent. Here's the thing though--sometimes his intelligence infuriates me. There are times when he thinks circles around me, and I really just want to kick him in the shins. What can I say, sometimes those baser instincts take over, leaving self-preservation in the wind.

It's his competence that really gets me going. Oh yes, competence is definitely one of the cornerstones of a beautiful mind. So totally sexy.

Ahem, anyways...

Competence is not necessarily how much you know about something, or how smart you are--it's about how you choose to handle yourself and the manner in which you deal with challenging situations.

It's important to know that one has put their well-being in capable hands, because really, not only is incompetence a turn off, it can be downright dangerous.

Did I mention that I find competence to be incredibly sexy?
*Sigh* He says I'm easy.


  1. I think you may have mentioned that in passing.

    Going into an ice cave - too damn cold for me.

    1. sunnygirl,
      Lol, good thing I didn't forget, huh!

      But doesn't that make it warmer inside?

  2. I'm with you 100%, and kicking him in the shins I get that too, however I do like my foot exactly where it is :)

    1. Lol, Misty! Yes well...As I told him the other night, I want to be brave. Really, I do...I just usually know better.
      And while I don't consider myself to be exceptionally flexible, I'm sure that he could find someway for my foot to go up my butt...

  3. It's all such an indefinable mix, isn't it?

    Intelligence by itself may not trip my trigger, but you absolutely cannot NOT have it.
    Competence is indeed, a turn-on ... as long as it's housed in the body of someone with intelligence and killer eyes. But again, it's one of the required components...

    Really, it's so complex, it's a wonder any of us ever get laid!

  4. Jz,
    it really is! I kept adding and subtracting sentences on this one...

    Right, right, right, all the way around. And really, what is with the eyes?! Sometimes its just not even fair what a set of smoldering eyes can do...

    Maybe it's less complex for them, therefor insuring that everybody gets laid sometime?

  5. As a man, I find that how I handle myself in conflict, love, and relationships are watched by others. I love the way you love your man.

    1. Thedarkmonk,
      I think that people do generally watch more than we tend to think.

      Thank you. I hope to love him like this (well, maybe better) for a very long time.

  6. Enjoyed this post Lil and found myself nodding all the way through. Competence is definitely a turn-on for me too. An intelligent incompetent however is not LoL


    1. Roz,
      Lol, I find that intelligence can be both sexy and highly annoying.

  7. Hi Lil, I also enjoyed this post and agree with you on every aspect. You're a lucky lady to have a competent man who is also very sexy *sighs with envy*. My lovely man is also very competent - coupled with a dusting of insensitivity and a shower of mild stupidity. Thankfully the competency outweighs the other two traits. Looks like he's a bit of an all-rounder, would you say?

    Have a great Christmas, girl!


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