I keep getting hits off the keyword search "how to mindfuck a submissive." While I also get hits from things like, "the difference between a Dominant and an asshole" (oh be still my beating heart), and "my life is a circus" (sorry about that btw), I thought I would narrow in on the whole mindfuck thing.
For one, I find it slightly disturbing that so many people Google the term--it's an activity that is, by nature, unique to the participants. A mindfuck for me might be an emotionally scarring event for someone else, and someone else's mindfuck might just break me.
Personally, I think of it in terms of two very different activities--mindfuck on an energetic level (my favorite, I must admit), and mindfuck as in fucking with someone's head. I know that I'm getting hits looking for the latter definition so that's what I'll ramble on about today.
For one thing, if you have to Google the term because you want to try it? You probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place. I mean, I'm all about educating yourself, but this is murky water with sharks in it people. So exercise some good personal judgement mkay? Yea I know--rude much? The answer lately is yes lol.
A mindfuck is a dangerous thing. It can be oh so incredible, or oh so incredibly capable of fucking someone up. Because you are, of course, fucking with someone's mind. As a submissive, I know that no one can get to me like my Dominant, that no one else has an opinion that matters as much, that no one but him can fuck with my head from the inside out.
The thing is though, he loves me. It matters to him that I come out the other side undamaged. He won't fuck with my head in any way that he thinks might cause me harm.
So for me, it's kind of like hanging off the edge with a rope and not knowing just how long the rope is--I'm securely tied off, but it might be a good long fall before the rope stops me. And who knows what may happen along the way?
And there's always the little fear of, what if the rope breaks? But even if it does, I know Alpha will be waiting at the bottom to catch me.
I do wonder what comes of the mindfucks that occur without caring...What happens on the other side of the event, how long do the effects last, and is the impact a good or bad thing?
I have plenty of physical scars and my fair share of mental/emotional ones, and I have to say--the physical ones are far easier to cope with.
Much like humiliation, which can be a mindfuck of it's own, what happens afterwards is even more important the event itself. Eventually, most of us will need help dealing with the mental side effects.
So if you are Googling (it should really be a word), how to mindfuck your sub, put some thought of your own into it. It's not a one-size fits all activity. And not everyone wants to or should go there at all.
Hmmm, I might be halfway back to making sense again! Maybe...