Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Back to Basics

Whips,
chains,
floggers,
cuffs,
knives,
plugs,
the list is practically endless.

But really, underneath all of the trappings and toys, our D/s about control, power, and trust. It is about basic desires, and fundamental human needs.
It's about the fact that he ultimately controls all of the above. For both of us.

Yes, he controls the cut of my hair, the underwear I do or do not wear, the places I go, etc. But I think that it's the control over the basic little things about being human that has the biggest impact.

All that other stuff with it's pretty toys? It's just the trappings.

It all starts with the basics. Working our way up the hierarchy of needs, with everything else being somewhat extraneous.

While I'm not entirely sure about the organization and content of this pyramid, it will do
I think that ultimately, our D/s revolves around feeding and control of these needs. The foundation of the pyramid is all about the basics.
To one extent or another, he controls my pyramid from the bottom up.

The basics are the foundation on which everything else is built. It's the little things, the simple things, the common and undeniable needs, that set the groundwork for control of everything else.

There are many things that we can all live without, there are things which greatly increase our quality of life, and there are things without which, we die.

Much like everything else in life, at its core, D/s is really very much about the basics.

12 comments:

  1. Life - it is a series of realities.

    Back to the roses, I see.

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    1. sunnygirl,
      I wonder if I could set a new record and stick to one background for a whole month...

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  2. yes.

    All the 'stuff' is nice, the icing on the cake perhaps, but its not what maintains the relationship..or rather its not the foundation.

    x

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    1. tori,
      I agree. Foundations are important, aren't they?

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  3. Wow....this was great! Thanks for breaking it down and putting things into perspective.

    Subrina <3

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    1. Subrina,
      Thank you, and you are quite welcome.

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  4. Great post Lil, very well said! Love the pyramid and what you said about control of the basic things that has the biggest impact.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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  5. Foundations. Without a strong foundation done of that fun stuff that are the pretty decorations can be. Lovely thoughtful post, Lil.

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    1. Bleuame,
      Thank you!
      This was one of those posts that just wouldn't come together. It's been in the drafts folder for a while lol.

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Play nice.