Does Alpha share his thought processes or reasons behind all of ttwd - or any of it? Would you want him to - or is it more comfortable for you to accept and not know why he chooses as he does?
It is rare that he will share his thought processes when it comes to anything related to ttwd. It's not that I don't ask, I do...But he generally ignores my questioning. The exception comes when issues arise. Not the first time, and maybe not even the second time the same problem comes up. If I'm having a consistent problem with something and
On the surface, yes--I desperately want to know why he chooses what he does. Soo badly...But really, when it comes right down to it, I think that's part of the allure of submission for me to not always know and understand the reasoning, to know that often it is just because he can, and sometimes it because of something else...It is not comfortable for me to accept and not know why he does what he does, but it is...Hmmm, I just don't think that our D/s would work any other way.
Transparency runs one direction in our relationship. And as upset as that occasionally makes me, as insecure and infuriated as it sometimes inspires me to be, I wouldn't change it if I could. Oddly enough, it is one of the power imbalances in our relationship which has become deeply integral to the functioning of our D/s.
And, from Kaya,
Once your M discovered he had all this power, what was the one thing that he took and ran with that you didn't foresee happening (in other words, has he gone mad with power? Heh)
Is there anything in your life you would take back if you could?
Lol, yes--he has definitely gone mad with power. It is an issue of no small contention around here.
In all seriousness though, yes. I really didn't think that he would take to control the way he has.
I know, I was one of those starry-eyed idiots, and reality didn't feature much in all my carefully crafted perceptions of ttwd, but I would have never in a million years thought that control would be his kink (I think "kink" is a bit of an understatement here, but I'm lacking the motivation to find the word I want).
He took the control aspect and upped it to levels that I was completely unprepared for. I started off much more...Pain oriented? And not so interested in the giving up control aspect of ttwd. He changed that completely (I call it brainwashing, he seems unreasonably attached to the term "Training" whatever).
Is there anything in my life that I would take back if I could...I thought about this a lot, and many of the things which I view as events I wish had never happened, led to events which either changed me for the better, or to circumstances which impacted my life in a positive way.
I think that the one thing...
It would be the fighting with my dad in the months before he died. Things just got...Really weird, and he could be such an asshole. I do regret spending so much of that time angry with him.
And lunch. He wanted to take me out to lunch for my birthday one year, just us. But he was sick, and we didn't go...Somehow, it just never happened. I would change that. I would have gone to lunch with my dad.
Overall, I think that there are worse things one could regret.
And on the Q & A note...I batted my eyelashes at my darling Master, people. I don't get to ask a whole lot of questions around here, so let me live vicariously through you...