But you know what? I think they may have this whole birthday thing down. My eldest did an extra round of dishes of his own free will so I could wake up to a clean kitchen, and he made breakfast. There was even a remarkable lack of brotherly angst yesterday morning.
They also gave me a card that clearly stated I was not actually a whole year older--merely a day. Maybe they really are good kids underneath all that evil...
And my darling husband, what can I say besides that he says happiness looks sexy on me, and he makes me happy. Hmmm, that might be a future post...
In the shower that morning, he announced that I had tainted him, (?!?) and sex was no longer about sensation but about power. I think he was looking for a slightly different word, but I'm a
We have the house to ourselves until tomorrow morning--kiddo persuaded grandma that he could be trusted alone with his brother for an hour in the morning, so he got us another night. Almost makes me rethink my stand on the wickedness of children. Almost.
In other, more exciting news, March is question and answer month here in Blogland (I do wonder who started the traditions, but I'm too lazy to put any real effort into finding out). So, if you have any questions for me, please do feel free to leave them in a comment, and I'll put my response in a post (unless you prefer a private answer, in which case, just email me through the link on the sidebar). As usual, answers are also welcomed.
I survived another year, and that's nothing to scoff at. .
Glad to hear you had such a great birthday! Going to think re: the questions and definitely going to do it myself :)
ReplyDeleteJoolz,
Deleteit's fun! Especially if one has been lacking on inspiration.
I'm glad you had a great day and extra kid-free time! I do hate birthdays though, and that's all I'm going to say about that.
ReplyDeleteDoes Alpha still have you pee in a cup every morning? Was it in the morning, I can't remember now...
Misty,
DeleteI love Other people's birthdays. Me, I'm not a huge fan of growing older; though, as my husband likes to point out, it's better than the alternative. Lol.
Yea...I still have to pee in the cup every morning. But not on my birthday!
A belated happy birthday....am i late, i dunno lol
ReplyDeleteoh yes i have a question which im expecting a long and detailed reply to
why, oh why cant this whole submitting thing be easy, it should be easy, its just obeying right? so why does it sometimes seem like a constant struggle?
good luck lol
x
tori,
Deletewas the first, thank you, lol.
I think that is a very valid question! And as long as you don't mind replies that may read like a complaint list...
A belated Happy Birthday also. What, no one baked a special birthday cake for you.
ReplyDeleteGlad you kids and Alpha make it memorable.
sunnygirl,
Deletethank you!
No...But the boy made breakfast, so I have confidence that he is almost cake-capable!
OK, well, ...
ReplyDelete- I still want to know about that magic basil.
- You're given a gift certificate for any five books - what do you buy?
- No limit on resources or labor - describe your dream house.
- Your children each receive a highly distinguished award - what for?
- I'm coming to visit. What kind of cake do you bake?
;-p
Jz,
DeleteMy father used to call basil the "bitch plant"...I swear that I thought abusing it was a real thing...
This needs a post of it's own. I'll have to pull out one of those snazzy titles...
Sounds like you had a fantastic birthday. It's really great when kids behave so well. :)
ReplyDeleteWhat has been the one thing you've struggled most with in your submission?
What has been the easiest part? If there has been an easy one that is, lol.
~JAS
JAS,
DeleteOoh, that's a good one. There's an easy part?
Aww, happy birthday! And thanks for that quote. I've been looking in the mirror lately and worrying about upcoming wrinkles and the ever-popping up grey hair.
ReplyDeleteI look young, but I fear looking old. I'm weird, lol. I just wanted you to know that this quote helped me keep things in perspective!
Elisa xo
Elisa,
Deleteyea, with the advent of my birthday, I've been doing a bit more of that--thus the picture. Glad you liked it!
A very very happy birthday xxx
ReplyDeleteI have a question that follows on from Tori and to which I really want an answer for actually, cos It's been plaguing me for ages - why, when this submission thing that SHOULD be so easy is so often like a continuous struggle, do we/I/you want to do it?!
That's one's baffled me for a while...
mc kitten,
Deleteooh, yes--I think those two could combine nicely into one post!
I'm sure the universe got one thing right giving me boys and not girls. I'm so glad they done good for you on your day. I hope the rest of the weekend was worthy also. My question - does Alpha share his thought processes or reasons behind all of ttwd - or any of it? Would you want him to - or is it more comfortable for you to accept and not know why he chooses as he does?
ReplyDeletegg,
Deletefor some reason I, quite insanely, spent a small amount of time wanting a girl...That insanity faded fast, and that's pretty much exactly how I feel about having boys--thank you Universe!
I'll try to get your question answered soon.
Once your M discovered he had all this power, what was the one thing that he took and ran with that you didn't foresee happening (in other words, has he gone mad with power? Heh)
ReplyDeleteIs there anything in your life you would take back if you could?
kaya,
DeleteJust one thing?!
I'll try to have a go at these tomorrow.
Hi Lil! Long time lurker, first time comenting. I would like to ask you how you manage D/s and two small kids in the house? Is it difficult? They know about D/s? And what do you think D/s improved outside your marriage and in your relationships with others?
ReplyDeleteAnd let me just tell you, I love your writing. I think you are very talented. Please keep going. Sorry for my English. It's a little bit rusty.
blonde,
Deletethe post is up. I hope that I answered your questions adequately!
Your English reads quite well to me!
Thank you for your compliments regarding the blog.
And another question. Well, when I start I can be a real pain in the ass. These ones are for Alpha. When did you realize that you and Lil would be together for the rest of our lives? And finally, what do you like most about Lil?
ReplyDeleteblonde,
DeleteI suppose I could have just responded to both comments in one lol. My bad.
I am going to put together a post with the questions for Alpha. I hope to have it up fairly soon.
Well to answer your question...I started the March question of the month I think in 2007 in BDSM blogosphere. I saw a vanilla blog doing it and no one in the BDSM blogs were doing it so I started it. It took off. I haven't participated for several years, but hope next year to join back in.
ReplyDeleteQuestions for you for March Question Month: What is your favorite color? favorite food? favorite book? favorite toy?
danae,
DeleteOoh, questions and an answer, I like!
I enjoy Q & A month--it's fun and thought provoking. Plus, if I'm low on inspiration it pulls me out of my slump.
Thanks for the questions.
My husband and I recently began our journey into the world of D/s and BDSM. I was the one who asked for it. Although my husband has a naturally dominant personality he has always been a very tender lover. So, when I've asked how he feels about some of the BDSM elements we've tried he says it doesn't really do much for him. That he's doing it for me. Naturally, as a sub, this doesn't work for me. Reading what Alpha said to you in the shower gives me hope, though, that someday he will begin to enjoy the control aspect.
ReplyDeleteMy husband has been taking things very slowly because a lot of this goes against conventional marriage dynamics and, therefore, makes him a little uncomfortable. He is having to gradually acclimate himself to this new climate within our relationship? How was Alpha in the beginning? Did he struggle with implementing this new dynamic (i.e. control, assertiveness)? Do you feel like you have reached a stable point or do you continue to improve and go deeper into the lifestyle? Also, I would love to hear more about how you maintain your D/s dynamic in front of the kids.
Thanks
Rose Petals,
Deletethank you for the questions! My reply is posted here:
http://submissivesanctuary.blogspot.com/2014/03/some-questions-of-adapting-to-ds-dynamic.html