Thursday, April 4, 2013

Realizations

A little while back, I had this realization...Keep in mind that I'm (obviously) a bit slow on the uptake often sometimes.

Ttwd, it's not new to me anymore. I know right, what a shocker. And it only took me years to come to this realization.

I mean, seriously--after 6-7 years, it's time to quit playing the lost beginner right?

I think that perhaps it's a case of the fact that I take issue with people who "know it all."
I stumble and crash often enough to be quite aware that I don't know it all, so I try to avoid statements that make me sound reasonable more knowledgeable than I really am.

Because the truth is

Just ask a teenager, they know everything--except this.

And I don't ever want to be one of the people who forgets that we are all always learning. Because the instant we decide that we have learned all there is to learn? We have made our continued growth and evolution impossible.

Things change you know. Often, we pause and stay in the same place for a time. Then he will decide to adjust our direction, change a thing or two, and we start off traveling in the same direction, but on a slightly different path.
And I'm good with that. Because life is about the journey, not just the destination.

32 comments:

  1. This made me smile Lil!
    I will happily stay or play the fool as long as possible...:o)

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    1. Bleuame,
      Ah yes, isn't the fool truly blessed?

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  2. Nice post, I have been focused on the destination and think it might be time to just enjoy the journey. You made me reflect...Thanks!

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    1. Jane,
      sometimes it's really difficult to focus on the journey instead of what is ahead. That one is a bit of a constant struggle for me...

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  3. My pet hate statements such as..

    "all submissives/slaves should be/do xyz"

    winds me right up! the only person who gets to say what i should be and do is the bossman.

    Its funny though it seems to me that the longer i have been doing this the more i realise what i dont know but yet i really thought i did....(mostly about how i feel about submission, M/s and how it works for us) gosh i can look back at some of my really old posts and cringe..because yeah i really thought i had it all sussed! lol

    But absolutley always got to be learning

    x



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    1. tori,
      I know right? If you are z, then of course you must follow x and y otherwise you are "true".

      And yea, I am allergic to reading my old posts lol.

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  4. I think it's that very quality -- the ability to look at your life / ttyd with fresh, beginner-y eyes -- that makes you such an amazing blogger. It's your perspective, and it's a very valuable thing. At least to this little reader.

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  5. time is a funny thing. I realised the other day that if asked I'd probably still automatically class us as beginning explorers, then I was checking back in my electronic journal the other day and discovered to my surprise that I'd started it in 2009, and when I'd started it we'd been doing TTWD for several years already!

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    1. mamacrow,
      time really is funny isn't it? For example, I can obviously not remember exactly how many years we have been at ttwd. That sounds kinda bad doesn't it lol.

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  6. Sorry im back coz i have been dwelling on this lol

    I do wander if this idea 'of knowing it all' is similar to the concept of being caught up in the fantasy ideals of what it should be like and not really having the experience behind them.

    Ages ago i got a comment on a post i had made berating me for not behaving as a slave should and on clicking on the persons profile they were online only! and to be honest i found it comical.

    *just want to say before it causes any backlash, i dont think 24/7 is the only real way, but i do think realistically there is a huge difference in relationships that are 24/7 and those that are not, and i will admit that before i lived with the bossman i pretty much had this built up fantasy...and reality didnt match that.

    gosh sorry lil...im just so wide awake lol

    x

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    1. tori,
      Oh ya know--sometimes one comment just isn't enough. I'm always happy to see you here.

      What are you doing awake anyways, shouldn't you be sleeping soundly in a nice drugged up stupor?

      I think that they are similar concepts.
      I too would find that comical. The thought process revolving around living with someone in a power exchange relationship versus being online only is something that I have been musing about for a while--it seems that often those who don't live it feel that those of us who do experience unnecessary and menial struggles.

      I have thought about doing a post on how I see the differences between D/s online and living together, but I'm still debating how many people I am willing to have come yell at me in one day lol.

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    2. well im sleeping too much during the say and now its 1.25am and im wide awake!

      I have myself contemplated a similar post but i do think i could cause offence, its not that i knock online, but im not convinced that it can be the same..there are just too many differences.

      Ok thats all i will say on that here!

      x

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    3. Good point about the evolution of a DD dynamic. We haven't been at this very long and I can already see how it's a living dynamic.
      Bea

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    4. Bea,
      "A living dynamic" that's really a great way to to say it.

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  7. I have always found that more I know simply leads to a greater understanding of how far I really have to go before I can say I truly know something.

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    1. Sir J,
      I find your phrasing quite beautiful.
      If I could have come up with that this whole post would have fit nicely into one sentence!

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  8. It really is true that the more you learn the less you feel you know.

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  9. You will find that the older you get the less you know. It's a fact of life.

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    1. sunnygirl,
      quite true. That is a point that is driven home to me with each passing year lol.

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  10. That's one of my favorite sayings, lil. There is no destination, and we never 'arrive'. If we look up from our perch, we'll see the road continues in front of us, and that's a good thing. Growth and testing and expanding boundaries, is always a good thing

    (((hugs)))

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    1. June,
      It is a good saying. If we spend all our time looking ahead, we miss our present and life passes by without ever having been truly lived.

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  11. Awesome post!! It's one of the joys of ttwd...we are always growing and learning :)

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  12. Great post Lil. Ttwd is constantly evolving and I don't think we ever stop learning. There is no destination, it's a constant journey.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      thank you.
      Perhaps that aspect of evolving is one of the things that is so attractive about ttwd...

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  13. Kinda like a road trip. You stop to refuel and maybe get some snacks and a drink. Then you start driving again only to take a scenic route. The driver is wise (my hell! Did I say wise? He's not 92, lol) and/or has a GPS and makes the journey enjoyable. It's not a race to get to your destination (if ever) so you might as well enjoy all the scenic routes you can because once you reach your destination, there'll be another one waiting for you to reach.

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  14. As always, thank you lil as I needed to here this today. Not only was the message in the box inspiring, the message surrounding it was beautiful!!!

    luvs2please

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Play nice.