Okay, it took an hour this morning to get my blog to let me post. Now it is letting me post (I think...).
I read a post a while back (normally I get off my lazy ass and make a link if I don't have the blog listed, but I can't find it), by a Dom, talking about being a good Dom. He had me in agreement for a while, then I came to particular line and the writer and I parted in our beliefs--he stated that a Dom must, above all, never show weakness to his submissive. Now, this is a broad statement and if I could find my way back to that particular blog, I would probably ask it's writer to clarify his definition of weakness. Weak as in a pushover that lets the sub get away with murder? Then by all means, we are back on the same page. Weakness in the way that we are all subject to the human condition and everyone needs a place to hide their head sometimes? Then our opinions part ways again. I suppose it depends on the relationship. If you are married or in it for the long haul, isn't never showing weakness a terrible burden, a wall within an otherwise deep connection? And is the human need for occasional comforting and a shoulder to lean on really weakness, or is it simply a facet of being alive?
We are largely defined by our expectations. And usually, those expectations shape what we want and get out of our relationships. Do I expect Alpha to be strong, to be my shelter in the storm, to make sense in a world without reason, do be my pillar of strength in a crumbling tower? Yes. Do I expect that He will occasionally need a shoulder to lean on, a rock to hide under when life becomes overwhelming, a place to lay His head and rest? I do. He is, after all, human too. If I couldn't provide those things on the rare occasion that He does need them, I wouldn't be worthy of His Dominance. I would be weak and useless. Our relationship would lack the strength and bond that is necessary to survive this brutal world. He would be lonely. I have noticed that it does seem to get a bit lonely up there. And what if you were so far up at the top that no one could reach you, that the world rested on your shoulders alone while at the side of your loved one? I think that would make a relationship less than fulfilling.
Okay, I really did have some coherent thoughts on this subject, but my blog issues threw me off my philosophical track lol.