Friday, November 9, 2012

Dear Lurkers

We call visitors who visit silently lurkers.

Did you know that there's a day dedicated just to you? Yep, really there is--today!
Today various members of Blogland will be posting in your honor and hoping that you de-lurk for just a moment to say hello to us.

Thanks to Bonnie of  My Bottom Smarts for coming up with the idea of Love Our Lurkers day. I think that many of us bloggers enjoy it tremendously, and it's nice to acknowledge our silent visitors.

I know that you come through quietly, leaving only a blip on my dashboard to tell me that you were here. And I'm sure that there are reasons for your silence. So if you don't want to say hello today, that's okay--I appreciate you anyways.

I have this theory that lurkers, are for the most part, people who are really searching for something. And I do hope that you have found something here upon occasion--even if it was nothing more than an excuse to consume copious amounts of coffee in an attempt to make sense of my mad rambling.

I'll let you in on a not-so-secret secret--at least 3/4 of the bloggers around here were originally lurkers. I am a recovering lurker myself.
I lurked for years. I even did a lot of lurking after I started this blog. Believe it or not, I'm actually a rather shy person.

I know that some bloggers will be generous and offer bribes such as receiving a swat for each comment on their Love Our Lurkers posts.
Having some personal experience with masochists, I know that inside every good masochist is a sadist just waiting for the opportunity to pounce. So I will not be brave like them lol.

However, I did try to think of something you might like that would be at least semi-painless for me (apparently I'm still working on that whole "selfless concept).
So...I thought that I would turn my blog over to you--if there's a subject or a particular question that you would like me to tackle in a post, but have been to shy to mention or ask, let me know in a comment or an email.
I'll do a post on that subject.
If you arrive here and see that others have already left comments with ideas, don't let that stop you from making a request of your own--I'll do them all (no physics, or math please. I can be a bit slow). By the same token, if you read this the day after today, or sometime further down the line, don't let that keep you from leaving a comment!

I know that's probably a poor attempt at bribery, but bribes have never been my strong point lol. Maybe next year I'll be braver...

I do love my lurkers and their day. So much so that I usually go around and comment on blogs where I don't lurk...Just to say hi lol.

If you want to go on quietly about your day, I don't mind. But I would love it if you took a just a moment to say hello.

62 comments:

  1. I am not a lurker, but just had to come by and say:
    Happy LOL day, Lil!
    Love,
    Bas

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    1. Bas,
      It's always nice to see you here! Even if your lurker status has been revoked lol.

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  2. I lurk but once in a blue moon I can't help but leave you a comment, for good or ill. You can decide. :)

    I'll just go on quietly about my day now.

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    1. Susie,
      Oh I like your "once in a blue moon" comments!

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  3. Hi lil,

    Happy LOL 7 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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  4. Happy LOL Day. It has been awhile since I've commented so just wanted to say hello this day. Take care.

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    1. SNP,
      Thanks for stopping by and saying hello.

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  5. Not a lurker here but I wanted to say Happy LOL day!!!! :)

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    1. HisLilAngel,
      Oh I don't think being a lurker is required!

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  6. I drop by regularly and usually comment, so today is a usual day.
    Happy LOL Day.

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    1. sunnygirl
      I am always happy to see you.

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  7. I do enjoy my visits but don't comment as much as I should.

    Happy LOL Day.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. ronnie,
      Thank you. Happy LOL day to you as well.

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  8. I feel like I qualify as a lurker here, so hi!

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  9. From one submissive to anothetNovember 9, 2012 at 9:18 AM

    Ive got a question/thought
    Here goes hope it makes sense,
    The D/s aspect of our relationship has been a complete relationship shift. I have been the one in charge for 5 years and when we decided that we were going to have a D/s relationship, he became the one in charge. At home I am very submissive, i know my place and i love it. However in public and around family and friends it seems old habbits die hard. Its been almost 2 years and i still really really struggle with it, he gives me that "watch it look" when i do it but it doesnt seem to stop me most times. I was wondering if you ever had trouble with that? My ass has been consistanly sore for two years now lol.

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    1. From one submissive to anotherNovember 9, 2012 at 9:20 AM

      Crap typed my profile name wrong...but you get it lol

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    2. From one submissive to another,
      I got it!
      I'll do a post on your question/thought.
      I'm glad somebody took me up on it!

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  10. Happy LOL day... i love reading your stuff, and i'm not that silent, but still, i think i read a heck loads more than i comment.

    thank you for all your thoughts.

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    1. Fondles,
      thank you! And thanks for taking the time to slog through my mad ramblings lol.

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    2. the copious amounts of coffee i drink warrants it :)

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  11. I'm with Fondles. I hardly ever say anything here because you pretty much say it what you need to say so well it doesn't need additives and filler. (that's me. :))

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  12. *Waves* Happy LOL Day, lil :)

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    1. Waves back at June. Happy LOL day to you too!

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  13. Hey Lil!!!! Happy happy LOL Day:):)

    Belle:)

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  14. Happy LOL day

    My question is: do you have as much snow where you live as currently appears on your blog?

    BTW I love the way you change the theme regularly, keeps us on our toes!

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    1. Joolz,
      ooh, a nice simple question without any math! That's my kind of query lol.
      I could just answer it here...But I did say I would post these, so I won't.

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  15. Hi Lil,
    I've been lurking for a while....Just wanted to say I love your 'rambling' writing style. Your thoughts seem more authentic when your thinking is there out loud so to speak. I always enjoy your posts, even though I don't have much to say.

    Lyoness

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    1. Lyoness,
      Thank you for de-lurking! It's nice to hear that you enjoy the blog.

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  16. I like to think of myself as a demi-lurker...
    Enjoy LOLing!

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    1. Jz,
      I had to work yesterday, and it totally interfered with my ability to run around and all over Blogland admitting to what a crappy lurker I am lol.

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  17. Happy LOL day. I am a lurker...new to the blogging world, beginning my own chronicle. just enjoying learning from others. Thanks for the posts.

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    1. laura,
      Thank you for de-lurking, and welcome to Blogland!
      There are some really lovely people here. I think that you will enjoy the experience.

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  18. I've been following your blog for a few months now. Your post's inspire me.

    Thanks

    Jodi

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    1. Jodi,
      Thank you for peeking in and saying hello.

      Hearing that I inspired someone always makes me smile. Inspiration is kind for a big deal to me...So thank you!

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  19. I'm a regular visitor and often comment. You are such a beautiful writer! Happy LOL day.

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    1. Thank you Minelle! Happy LOL day.

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  20. Waving Hi! I'm not a lurker, but anyway, I have a question.

    What do you and your Dom think of sharing/playing with others? I haven't been reading long, so I apologize if you have already covered this one.

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    1. ancilla,
      Oh you know, I love my lurkers, but I also adore and appreciate those of you who regularly leave comments.

      I have covered it...But I'll make sure your question gets answered. Even if I do it quite lamely in the form of a link to its previous coverage lol.

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  21. i have been reading your blog for................oh well over a year, i check it every day, its the first blog i check. i have left comments and asked a question or 2 but i just wanted to say i love it, you have made me laugh, made me squirm and given me quite a few of those light bulb moments. thanks lil, for sharing part of yourself and Alfa with the world

    M_Akitten

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    1. M_Akitten,
      Aww, thank you.
      If you ever get to start that blog of your own, let me know! I'll trample everyone in the race to leave you your first comment lol.

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  22. Hope you LOL Day is good for you.

    Prefectdt

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    1. Spankedhortic,
      Coming home and reading all the lovely responses was really nice. Thank you.

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  23. Well you know im not a lurker, maybe we should have a 'love a stalker day'...for the regulars lol

    x

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    1. tori,
      you know...I am such a fan of the group I consider my regulars, it's not a bad idea at all!
      Of course, I have a terrible problem with follow through...So I probably wouldn't be able to organize such a thing...But it's a brilliant idea lol.

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  24. I just came across your blog about a week ago, but I don't think I've commented yet. Happy LOL Day.

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    1. Dana,
      thank you for taking the time to say hello! And welcome to my crazy little corner.

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  25. Hi,
    quietly de-lurking and saying hello. I am really enjoying reading your blog, thank you for sharing it, it always makes me think and ponder.
    Rae

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    1. Sir's Beloved,
      Thank you for leaving a comment. I appreciate it.
      I'm never sure whether to be happy or apologize for making people think lol.

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  26. I joined this blog a while back, and it's time to de-lurk!
    Hope you had a Happy LOL Day!
    MrBB

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    1. MrBB,
      thank you for de-lurking! And it has been quite fun.

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  27. Reading your stories is part of my daily routine! Thank you for sharing!

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    1. twistee,
      Glad you like it here.
      You are quite welcome, and thank you for commenting.

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  28. Happy LOL Day! Believe we qualify as lurkers.

    :)
    ~Todd and Suzy

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    1. Todd and Suzy,
      thanks for de-lurking!

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  29. Hi lil, Just wanted to drop by and say a belated Happy LOL day! never too late right?

    This is my first visit here but I will definitely be back! It's nice to meet you. I love your background!

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    1. Roz,
      welcome to my crazy corner. And no--it's never too late when it comes to LOL day!

      I'm liking this background too. I do seem to have a bit of a decorating problem though--keeping one background for more than a week is extremely difficult for me lol.

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