Girl.
I have been thinking about the term lately, and I'm not sure exactly why it's such a turn-on.
There are so many wonderful variations of use:
Good girl--be still oh my wobbling knees.
Bad girl--not quite as much of a fan of that one.
Girl--great by itself.
My girl--any form of address with "My" or "Mine" is delicious.
Little girl--okay, Alpha has been using this term occasionally, and I'm not sure exactly how I feel about it. I think he knows that, and he'll continue to throw it out there until I get over it.
Silly girl--yes, I do hear that one a lot...Can't argue with it...
Dammit girl--oh, I'm in trouble here. That shouldn't be hot...But it still kinda is.
So why is "Girl" in all its variations such a turn on?
It sounds a bit condescending...
And I'm a bit old for it to apply literally...
Maybe it's because it is a rather diminutive term...
Oh I dunno...But I do know that I like it when he calls me "Girl." And sometimes, just that knowing really is enough.
Agreed. I love it too. Also little. Paired with My or Mine.... So so hot. :)
ReplyDeleteHisLilAngel,
Deletelovely isn't it?
Hmmm, I totally agree...it's a word packed with a lot of meaning and a lot of ... tingling. It's crazy - it SHOULDN'T be...but BOY is it!!
ReplyDeleteSirQsmlb,
Deletelol.
funny how little things can mean so much isn't it.
I love it too! We dont use little girl that way, but he does call me his little dirty girl and other variations like that, which I love!
ReplyDeleteKitty,
Deletethere's something to be said for a word that can come in so many variations!
There is something about the word...girl...so simple yet used a myriad of ways can bring about so many emotions in mouse....Kinda like slut. LOL
ReplyDeleteHugs,
mouse
mouse,
Deleteah yes--there are just so many ways those terms can be used. I never tire of my reactions to them.
I totally agree. Sir and I are in a long distance relationship, and whenever I see good girl it just turns me to jelly.
ReplyDeleteAnon,
DeleteI must say, "Good girl" is probably my very favorite combination.
In Dutch the translation of the word 'girl' is a somewhat longer word, related to the English word Missy, but a little softer in pronunciation.
ReplyDeleteBut we use it in the same way as Girl. All the combinations you mention are used. So there must be more than just the simplicity of the word.
Bas,
DeleteMaybe it's not so much the simplicity of the word as the meaning behind it?
oh I love 'girl'. I love 'good girl' and 'baby girl'
ReplyDeleteI think because they're pet names, not names a guy would use for any woman, just one in an intimate relationship, (and, I suppose, if she liked it. Some dont.)
Also partly because, even at 36 I'm not sure I'm ready to identify as a 'woman' - I was always happy to be a 'girl' though, it sounds footloose and fancy free!
Kinda like the difference between 'princess' (all the fun) and 'queen' (all the responsibility and none of the fun)
(definitions in brackets are just how the words strike me, they're not logical particularly and just my reactions!)
mamacrow,
DeleteI didn't used to like it at all. Context does change it a lot--my mother in law has always referred to me as "Girl" or, "The girl" For the first five years or so, I found it rather insulting. But I got over it. Of course, that's not at all what I had in mind when I wrote the post...
And I think you have something there about the whole princess/queen thing--being the queen sucks so much more than I thought it would lol. But the princess, well, she does get to have all the fun.
i will say that 'good girl' did nothing for me until recently. I didn't hate it, it didn't turn me off, it just didn't float my boat - felt silly and contrived, maybe?
Deletesome switched flipped, & now it is the BIGGEST turn on and pay off ever.
no idea why!
Just a thought: The relationship is based on us putting our trust and control into the hands of our Sir. We look up to him and place our life in his hands, which is on the same line as what we do as a child. In childhood, as a little "girl," we live a carefree life where we have no responsibilities and can just live life free of the other problems that "women" face. When he uses the word "girl," it denotes freedom from the issues we face as adults and allows us to just focus on the here and now of pleasing him.
ReplyDelete...but I melt when he praises me with a "good girl" or says "my girl"
Anon,
DeleteI think you make a good point there--it minimizes the weight of responsibility we carry. And that can be very comforting and enjoyable.
Just knowing I will always be his girl, no matter what adjective precedes it makes me melt.
ReplyDeletesunnygirl,
Deleteit's a wonderful reason to melt!
I get this too, mostly said in my more vulnerable moments and it makes me all melty...unless of course I am in trouble. He has only used it since beginning ttwd and he's not much of a reader so I wonder where in him it comes from. Don't think I'm going to ask though, b/c I kinda like it.
ReplyDeleteSusie,
Deleteit makes me melty when I'm in trouble too. In a different way I guess...
I have often wondered where/how they come up with the things they do. But that's one thing I'm not sure I really want or need to figure out...
Kind of funny how two little words can turn us subs on instantly (good girl).....and men say women are complicated, soo not the case here! So frusterating though when you want him to say good girl and because he knows it he wont! But thats kinda hot too.....lol
ReplyDeleteFrom one sub to another,
DeleteOoh--one of those cases of "I like it because i don't and he does (or doesn't do) it anyways"? Happens to me all the time in varying contexts lol.