A Question of Friends and D/s

Okay, before I get going here, I got Alpha to say he'd play along with question and answer month, but he reserves the right to answer or pass them off to me lol. So if you've got any for him, leave 'em in a comment or email me (he never checks his email). Chances are I'll be the one to type it up anyways lol.

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 I got a question that I feel woefully unqualified for, mostly because I gave up on cultivating friendships a couple of years ago. But here it is, and if anyone has anything helpful to contribute, please do chime in.

So here's the comment from M_Akitten:

"lil this couldn't have come at a better time, I am trying to explain to a so-called friend about my choice to be His. I mistakenly thought I could trust her and in a moment of weekness I told her about D/s (stupid stupid move i know) now I need some really enlightneing stuff to add to the e-mail to her. i am not so good with words,"

It's worth pointing out that I have turned into one of those people who doesn't have a problem dropping friends who have issues with Alpha or our relationship. Therefore, my thoughts might not be extremely helpful to your situation.

I think that it's quite possible some people will never be able to accept it, no matter how great the phrasing of explanation. 

So how would I explain my choice to be owned to someone who didn't understand it?

There are some pretty obvious markers of unhealthy relationships. A real D/s relationship is not going to display those. So if she has concerns for your well-being, it might be worth pointing out that she's having a hard time understanding it because your relationship is different than the kind she is used to and views as normal.

I think that most people who object to D/s equate it with abuse because that is the only context they can see it in. If your relationship was actually abusive, you never would have told her anything in the first place. D/s isn't about anger and fear--it's about giving power to someone who is willing to take it and use it wisely in the best interests of you and your relationship. 

D/s is your way of loving. And yes, that's quite different than hers I am sure, but it's a choice you made in how you have decided to live your life.
In my opinion, the choice to be his is very much about happiness, trust, love, security, and the feeling of "rightness" that comes with being owned.

I would point out to her that you are still the same person you were before she knew about your dynamic--the only thing different is the way She sees you. So really, the dynamic of your D/s changes nothing except her personal perceptions of you and your life.

Ultimately, her objections are not going to change your relationship. So she will have to come to grips with it or decide that she cannot see beyond her own judgements about it.
If this friendship is very valuable to you, I wish you the best of luck. If not, sometimes it is simplest to just let people go.

I don't know how helpful this post was, and enlightening people (in polite and constructive ways), is not my strong point, but I did try lol. And I did send off an email, that I think addresses the specifics a bit more.

Any other thoughts from readers?